Thanks widdly! I will stop biting my fingernails now.

I'm glad that you've come to a decision that you're at peace with and hope that you and DH can resolve things ... and if not, that you'll both know that you've tried your hardest.

I wish there was a magic pill that would get blokes to go to counselling - they all seem to have to be dragged along kicking and screaming and believe that the counsellor will take 'the woman's side."