Bearmum, planning your baby's funeral is so hard and we found it very difficult to get through, but it's so important.

As my midwife told us, we had to do all our parenting in such a short time - those hours we were able to hold our boy and then planning the funeral and saying goodbye. For us, everything we did was to honour our son's short life.

The other thing she told us, is for all the words of solace, really the whole thing is just f'd. It really is the worse thing you can go through.

One of the difficult things to handle we found is that so few people met our son. For Leo, most of the family and friends who attended his funeral never got to meet him. We had framed pictures of him at the front of the room and a little baby photo album where people walked in, so everyone could see he was real and how beautiful he was. I'm sure Jackson's funeral will be a loving tribute to him and the family who wanted him and love him so.