missbelinda - make sure you hang around anyway until you are ready to TTC again!
SP - I totally understand how you feel about your SIL and not wanting to visit. When my SIL had their first bub 6 wks after my first m/c, I was terrified about going to visit them in hosp, as I didn't know what my reaction was going to be and the whole family were there. It turned out ok (I surprised even myself), but I had had a lot longer than you to come to term with things. Don't push yourself - I am sure she understands, and you will visit them when you are ready. I am thinking of you as I know this is a really difficult time
Sharon -
Bek - It is only supposed to take 4 - 6 wks to get AF back - my body just normally has long cycles, so it was a bit longer for me. I am sure you won't have to wait that long.
Well, I am not doing so well atm. Went to the ILs for dinner last night and it all just got too much. My BIL and SIL had a boy, the first grandchild, just 6 weeks after my first m/c (and 6 weeks before my second), so now all family get-togethers involve the entire family (2 parents, 4 kids plus partners, and a visiting aunt) getting clucky and cooing over a baby all night. Now, I know that it SHOULD be like this - of course they should be enjoying a new addition to the family but sometimes it just all gets a bit much for me. Luckily it is a 3 storey house and DH and FIL were upstairs in the study and everyone else was in the middle level, so I managed to escape to the ground floor where I balled my eyes out in the bathroom for half an hour, and DH and FIL thought I was with everyone else, and everyone else thought I was with DH and FIL, so I don't think anyone noticed. It seems to be getting worse, not easier, I wasn't this bad before, but it is all just getting on top of me, and I am so sick of being brave all the time and putting on a happy face when everything is falling apart.
I have an appointment with my counsellor tomorrow, so hopefully that will help. The trouble I have is that hardly anyone knows about the second m/c- I found most people so unsupportive the first time that I didn't see the point in telling them about the second. The only few people who know are our parents and a couple of friends that we found a great help the first time. So I feel like I am pretty much on my own (apart from you guys of course!!). I think that makes it even harder.
Also, I had a dream last night that my little sis announced she was accidentally pg, and she told me this while sipping down strong alcoholic beverages - I was so angry!! But it was only a dream...
Hi to everyone else - sorry to ramble on for so long...
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