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Thread: Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss Feb 2007

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    Welcome back Miss Belinda was wondering how things were going... Did you have a great holiday???? Sorry to hear your confused its so hard isnt it... Have you cycles got any better, what is the gp or ob saying about the length of it?????

    HUGE HUGS Mummy to 1 im thinking of you and your angel.....

    Well temps still up at 36.3 been that for 3 days now so wait and see, im going to test at 15dpo so thats 7 days away so this time next week........


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    All the fingers and toes in the world crossed for you Jane. Good luck sweetheart. xxx

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    Morning girls, thank you for the warm welcome.

    mummyto1 - I am thinking of you today

    sharon - I hope we are both out of here soon!

    Salt Princess - it is a difficult time deciding what to do after a m/c. I was the same after my first, I just wanted to be pg again, then I went through a stage where I never wanted to be pg again as I never wanted to go through that hurt again, then eventually I was ready to try again. Then after the second m/c, I went through all those familiar feelings again! It think it is natural to feel the way you do and to change your mind lots. Just give yourself time until you feel you are def ready to try again, and in the meantime, talk to us girls!

    Hi to everyone else, I hope you are all travelling well.

    Well, I am on CD12 now and no signs of impending O. Looks like I will be going back to my usual pattern of O'ing on CD20 at the earliest, which is such a pain. I have an app't with my RE next wk to get BT results to find out if anything is wrong. After having 23 vials of blood taken, I wonder if they will find anything?? I'm not even sure if I want there to be something or not - if there is a reason for the m/cs, then it can be treated, but if everything is ok, then that is good, but means we are still in the dark and trying again is so scary.

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    Hello,

    Mummyto1 - Hugs to you hon. I know how you feel, this month I should have been giving birth to my first angel but instead I lost another. I wish you all the best and you are in such a wonderful place with all these lovely ladies.

    Sharon - Thanks for the info re cycle days. Your sister friends sound so in-tune with you and that is so special to have people like that around. I call them earth angels.

    Belinda - hi. Follow you instincts about when to TTC. This can be hard though, especially if you are hormonally challenged like me.

    Jane - Fingers crossed for your testing. I guess if you get consistant high temps for 10days or so then you should be right to test.

    Bun - Good luck with the test results. My SIL had 2 confirmed m/c and 1 unconfirmed before she had her DS. My whole family thought that she could not carry girls like my step mother and they thought this was the reason for her m/cs, but she is now 20 wks with no2 and we just found out it is a girl. So that theory was wrong. It is so scary to TTC again but I look at my SIL and she just kept going until she got her baby. That gives me strength with the TTC journey. Although I am scared becasue if I have another m/c then I know there is a problem to be found.

    SP - How you doing?

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    Hi Everyone

    I am so miserable at the moment. I am 14dpo, got a BFN this morning and just want AF to show her ugly head so we can get started again. I have 35 day cycles usually but I O'd on CD20 which is late for me. Work is stressful as well so am a big grump at the moment.

    Mummyto1, I am sending big hugs to you. xx

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    So sorry Tinsel.. I hope af arrives or that its just too early and you will get that bfp..

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    Thanks girls for all your kind words of support today - you are all priceless!! I so wish we could make a mass exodus from this thread but for some of us it is going to take time. It is about having faith that our dreams wil come true in the end & about staying positive.
    Shan -I hope your happy & in a good place!
    Janeo - good luck for a week from now - I love your resolve!!
    Bun - I hope you O & catch that slippery little eggie this time. Hopefully you will have success soon & not need to go into the 'whys' & 'hows' of your m/c's.
    Tinsel - big hugs - 14dpo is too early for some so hang in there.Wishing a BFP for you real soon!
    A big hello to all the other ladies - catch up with you all soon!!

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    Well i had a temp drop this morning from 36.3 to 36.1 but i woke 10 mins early and presses button but pressed it twice so i had to turn on the light to make sure i had it on knocked over the lamp so lots of moving b4 putting it into my mouth so not totally confident on the temp....... But having some niggly pains and things today so maybe bubba is burying herself inside me FINGERS CROSSED.................

    To all you girls you are an amazing support and its a pity we have to get to know each other for this reason instead of being belly buddies but i feel that it is all our turn to have a break and have our dreams come true... So lots of sticky vibes and +ve thoughts going out to you all......

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    I 3rd that thought. You girls crack me up with the temping strories.

    SP - Glad you are ok. I am ok as well thanks.

    Jane - Have my fingers crossed you hon.

    I started to temp today and my temp is really still high 36.8!!!! Ok I just checked my temp history on FF abd 36.8 was my normal coverline temp. How quickly you forget these things. I have a long cycle as well and I usually don't O until day 18 to 22.

    DH is getting very keen to BD again. Poor thing he has so been on a drought lately. The doc told me not to DTD until 2wks post operation. I am still deciding whether we should be careful until AF comes or just see what happens. Why do they say to wait until you have one AF?

    Stickey vibes to all
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    SP - I just stalked your chart, looks like you may be getting ready to O!!!!!
    I wish I could get some info on why they tell you to wait for AF. I might google it or ask in the mc thread here.

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    Hi girls

    BekZ & SP - I was told by my old (idiot) GP to wait 3 months to allow the endometrial lining to build before trying again. How that makes any sense I do not know, as the lining breaks down every month! Who knows. After both m/cs I decided to wait one cycle before trying again to allow some time to recover, and as I have long cycles and it took a while to O after each m/c, this wait will probably be 2 months anyway, and the wait after my first m/c was 10 weeks before TTC again. I have done a lot of research and a lot of the time the reason for waiting seems to be to allow the dr to date a subsequent pg, but with dating scans, I don't really see how this is necessary! I had a lot of trouble getting a straight answer on this one too, as the hosp dr told me there was a higher chance of m/c if you tried again in the next 3 months, but since then I have found out that there is no scientific backing for this at all.

    I think at the end of the day, it is up to each individual to decide when they are ready to TTC again.

    SP - I am not brave at all. I just have no choice - if this is what I need to go through to have the family I have always wanted, then this is what I have to do. The only alternative is to give up, and I am def not prepared to do that, not at this stage anyway. It does suck though - I am so jealous of those people who get pg, and it results in a baby. I never have that certainty and will never again feel that excitement at a BFP. I suppose all of us are like that now, and it really does take a lot of the joy away and replaces it with fear at a time in our lives when each and every one of us should be so happy.

    Bek - your poor SIL - I am so glad it all worked out in the end. Why could your stepmother not have girls? Please try not to worry about this happening to you again and about there being a problem - my specialist has said there is only a 20% chance of finding something wrong even if you have all the tests done after recurrent m/c. There is a 1 in 4 chance of m/c in every pg, so someone has to be unlucky enough to roll the unlucky number on the dice a few times in a row with no underlying cause. And the fact that you already have one healthy bub prob means your chances of m/c or having a problem are even lower. You have done it before, so of course you can do it again!

    Well, I hate O'ing late! I am on CD13 and I don't think I will O til about CD20 again... so annoying. And I always have this background fear that the cause of my m/cs could be such late O. Hopefully some of the tests I have had done will tell me one way or another what is going on. Only one week until my RE appointment.

    Hello to everyone else. I hope you are all ok.

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    It was funny Sp thats ok i was thinking the same thing as i typed....... Well i found this early from when Oct last year when i was 9dpo and was pg...

    Oct 17th 2006 9dpo..
    Well i feel a bit funny in tummy today and I have pains low down i cant cough it hurts and when i bend over it feels uncomfortable maybe im getting bloated which could mean either pg or af ARGH!!!!!!!!

    So wait and see....... Oh and Sp all your posts were in then so funny reading back to what we all said......

    I agree with what bun said......... Oh and they will have to give me a dating scan cos i sitll havnt had a af since d & c 10 weeks ago.. although i know my o day so they might go by that...

    It is hard Sp but you will know when your ready to go and see them..

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    Thanks for your info ladies regarding AF and TTC.

    I think I will resume TTC after AF but in the mean time I won't be that "careful" either.

    Bun - You are so right about all subsequent pregnancies bringing fear and nervousness. This is such a shame. I remember breezing through my first pregnancy, with not a care in the world (except normal mummy-to-be worry). Now the journeys feel so different and I am sure I will not be confident with the next pregnancy until the 19wk scan. I do have to be thankful that I have one very happy and healthy daughter. I so appreciate her very much, and I thank the guy up stairs every day for her.

    SP - I am sure your SIL will understand and you will get the strength to visit her soon. Maybe going to her home would be easier for you. There at least you can have a cry in private if you need to.

    Today I saw my SIL baby's scan. I took it really well and it has helped my so much to talk to her about her baby. I think it helps to know that she has been through what I am now going through.

    Jane - Wow 10wks without AF. Damn I thought AF would come soon and all would be good to go again, but from reading your and Bun's experience it looks like AF will be a while away.

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    Its meant to have come by now i think im a freak LOL.. Nah i have problems with length of my cycles anyway although never this long but thinking my body is just taking a LONG time to heal.. But hopefully it wont come for another 9 mths now and longer when im b/f lol..

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    Well I've decided for now, that I will not be actively TTC, as I can't handle going back onto Clomid at this time. My head just isn't in the right place to deal with the stress of it all or the prospect of anymore heartache. So I guess I just need more time to heal, before I can jump back on the horse (or the man!).

    That doesn't mean that I won't still be stalking you guys and checking out what is happening around here!

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    Bun I normally O around CD 19-21 and it definitely stinks having to wait that extra week than what is normal. Good luck with the BT results
    BekZ I think my DH is actually dreading the BD marathon (usually only 3-4 days in the month though) but because he is 41, and works long hours he is usually buggered by the time he gets home. My Ob told me to wait till my next cycle, never thought to ask why, and it wouldn't have mattered even if he said we could start now as DH is away all next week and that is usually when I O around then so I think I probably wasn't meant to be anyway.
    mummyto1 big :hugs: to you for the other day, it must have been very difficult for you.
    Tinsel it is horrible when you see a BFN when all you want is a +ve I will cross my fingers and hope that it was just too early for the test to pick up.
    janeo my DH would get cranks big time if I made that much noise temping LOL it is hard enough keeping the 10 beeps from the thermometer muffled enough so it doesn't wake him.
    saltprincess I also believe that coming back in here after my D&C was the best decision I could have made I don't know what I would do without my online "family" I also think that your SIL will understand why you couldn't visit her, and I am sure that in your own time you will be able to visit.
    missbelinda77 you obviously feel that you need a TTC break, I would love to have a chart "stalker" as i've never had one before, and it will be nice to see you pop in every now and again.

    Today I went to lunch with a friend, and another friend of ours happened to be at the same place, she gave birth to her DD on the day I had my D&C and I couldn't help myself but I just started to cry, not too much, but enough for her to see that I was sad, she was really nice, and I assured her that I was happy for her, but at the same time I was still sad for me.

    Hi to anyone I may have forgotten (and sorry if I have) hope you are all doing OK

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    Hello everyone
    have just been away for a couple of days at my mums so couldnt get online (had to go to the dentist ) Seems I have an abscess under my tooth so now I'm on AB's for a week then the tooth will be coming out!
    Jane I really hope that you get a bfp soon what strength to hold out so long to test
    SP it doesnt really make any difference if you do get pg without waiting but sometimes that time gives you the chance to build up courage to keep trying

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    Hello everyone? I had my miscarriage Janurary and just not had my D&C tuesday. How long do you bleed I am so ready to start trying again. I am hoping and praying that everything go well this time.
    Good Luck to everyone

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