Joey Just wanted to say a congrats on your BFP sending you lots of
Mannie I've been checking my cm as well but still nothing. I also brought a maybe baby and though it was a waste of money. I purchased an OV watch which tells you the four days b4 ovulation and the day of ovulation. You just need to wear the watch for 6 hrs a day (e.g when your sleeping) I used it b4 my last pg and got pg that cycle. Google it and you will find the website. My watch says I am fertile day 2 at the moment so two more days b4 ovulation.
Emmykate I know what you mean. With my job I see alot of the lower socio-economic society (drug addicted ppl) and they have healthy beautiful babies and I think to myself WTF!!!! My DH and I would be wonderful parents and give it everything it needing included a healthy and safe environment.
Babyfever Good luck with your HCG results tomorrow I hope they are high, high, high and keep getting higher for you BFP. I am sorry the lady taking the BT was so rude she obviously doesn't understand the anxiety involved in ttc after a miscarriage.
Ruthie I hope th next two months fly by and your new doc can give you all the answers and help you need.
Everyone else I missed sending you all lots of
AFM I have been feeling kind down lately and feel that DH and I will never have a forever baby. It been 1 year since we TTC and had two miscarriages. We have an appointment with the FS tomorrow to get the results from DH sperm test and my u/s results hopefully we get the all clear and dont need IVF. DH and I have started since ovulation should be friday/saturday according to my ov watch. Haven't got any sticky CM yet though.
Hi All
I have been off line feeling VERY sorry for myself for the last couple of days and have almost caught up with all the news.
Ruthie - I totally get what you mean about people saying ridiculous things. People keep saying "at least you know you can get pregnant" and I turned to my girlfriend the other day and said NO - At MOST I know can get pg! Honestly when people start a sentence with "at least" and then go on to tell you about someone else who had a "worse" experience I want to scream. That and the ones that start "I know someone"...no false hope please. - Rant over, Hugs to you honey.
Hannah - taking all of what I just said and forgiving everyone who says it because who the hell knows what to say to people in pain. You are right I cringe at some of the things I must have said to people in the past. I have been thinking a lot about you honey and sending you much love.
Tam - fingers crossed all is well for you and DH - but even getting some answers will hopefully give you something to work with.
Emmykate - I had a girlfriend (we are no longer friends) who smoked and drank happily through her two pregnancies and was delighted her babies were underweight - there is seriously no justice sometimes.
Louise - Welcome and so sorry to hear of your loss. I think stunned is the best word to describe how I felt. Just horrified and lots of shouting WHY at the world. Darling we are all here to support you.
Joey - wonderful news - everytime I see a BFP I think oh yeah that's going to be me soon. Well done sweetheart!
AFM - going to my first counselling session on Thursday as I am not coping as well as I thought. Had a big meltdown b4 DP and I went out for dinner as a shirt I had bought didn't fit right as my bbs have shrunk so much and I could not believe how angry I got with DP. I realised that I was so angry at my body for letting me down and I was not dealing with it effectively. I have also been asked to come back to work but that will mean being in Bris with DP in Syds. I get so mad as when I was pg I knew the role I had and did not mind not working - now I am consumed by my uselessness. I don't really want to do anything and need to get myself motivated. I am going to Gwinganna on Sunday for a 5 day wellness retreat so here's hoping it sorts me out.
Love to you all - sorry if I have missed anyone
Adele
Adele i hope you have a relaxing time at the wellness retreat on the weekend. I think you must be such a strong woman to be doing as well as you are considering what you have been through. I am sure your partner is supportive and understands your emotions/rage/irrational thoughts. When you go through something so emotionally devastating it is definitely going to change the dynamic of your relationship and put extra pressure on you for a little while. You have to keep yourself at number 1.. and really focus on your own health and do what you need to do to keep sane. Everyone gets angry/upset/depressed when they suffer a horrible loss.
I keep saying time is the only means to heal these scars... by God i wished someone would fast foward the clock Healing is so much easier said than done. Take care and stay strong. Your strength and determination are demonstrated just by your countless posts and warm wishes to others. You are an inspiration. Good things will come to those who wait... even if we have experienced the bad things first. At least we do not wait alone.... all of us on this forum are waiting together.
mannie i feel the same... like everyone but me is probably fertile after m/c. Like DH and i could probably have sex every day for the next month and still not conceive....... must try and look at the positives though - at least there will be plenty of fun trying right
sorry i've been busy & havent been on since last week... hope everyone is well!
JOEY: CONGRATS! hope it will be a happy & healthy pg!
update on my iui: (jen) i havent had any feelings that i've conceived. the only difference in this cycle is im having very few cramps - previous cycles i've had them consistently around o day til af, so im thinking thats cos of the clomid & trigger injection. nothing interesting!
anyways thats my bit for today - sorry it's so short! i've got to give up the comp to my sisters...
hopefully i can be back tomorrow during work for more persies!
Thanks everyone for your kind welcomes. I hope for everyone too that we have a short stay here
Babyfever good luck with the tests.
Emmykate Rant away hun
Dellydoo good on you for taking the step for counselling. I hope it helps with the frustration you are feeling
Lou welcome hun and I am sorry to hear your loss. I am on cycle number 2 since my MC (had D&C at 8w5d after 10days of bleeding). I felt (and still do sometimes feel) sad! I felt empty and lost. I wondered why it couldnt be and why we could never meet our wee angel. I feel like I have let DH down and feel that I couldnt give him what he wants just as much as what I do. All I wanted to do was cry and have DH hold me!
The first cycle after my MC I wanted to TTC straight away, not to replace my angel but because I just so desperately want to be a mum. My Dr gave me the all clear so we did. Unfortunately here I am, cycle number 2 after MC and still waiting. I am feeling much better though about the MC. I still have my moments of sadness and emtpyness and wonder why my body let me down, but it does get easier I promise.
I dunno why, but I have lost a bit of hope this cycle. I dont know exactly if I have ov'ed. Early in the cycle I had heaps of EWCM but I've only a small amounts of it in the last 2 days. So I dunno!
everyone else. I hope everyone is having a great night?!
Emmykate - I don't think you're being *****y at all. Some women just don't realise how lucky they are. You should've heard some of the things DH had to say about some of the women he saw while i was in hospital for my D&C. From my room you could see the hospital entrance and he was shocked at the number of pregnant women smoking outside. One of them looked about 6 months (7 at most) and we had seen her in emergency 2 days earlier because her waters broke. Go figure!
Joey - Congratulations! We need you to keep in touch to give us hope around here.
Tam - I hope you get some answers soon.
Louise - I am so sorry for your loss. I think empty sums up how I felt and still feel now. I have bouts of sadness, crying, screaming, anger, frustration but emptiness is the one constant. I had a D&C and it was my first encounter with general anaesthetic. I felt completely disorientated after that. Some part of me kept hoping that it didn't happen. Afterall, I have no memory of it. But then there's the physical emptiness too.
Adele - I've been thinking of you too. I'm sorry that you're having a hard time A wellness retreat sounds perfect - I'm so jealous. Is your DP going too? It sounds like you could do with the time together. I can totally sympathise with feeling angry with your body. I didn't eat for about a week. I'd been forcing myself to eat when I didn't feel like it due to m/s for 4 weeks and I just didn't see the point in forcing myself if I wasn't hungry. It was only me that would suffer now. As long as DP lets you rant and rave and then holds you when you cry.
sending you lots of
I hope th next two months fly by and your new doc can give you all the answers and help you need.
since ovulation should be friday/saturday according to my ov watch. Haven't got any sticky CM yet though.
Healing is so much easier said than done. Take care and stay strong. Your strength and determination are demonstrated just by your countless posts and warm wishes to others. You are an inspiration. Good things will come to those who wait... even if we have experienced the bad things first. At least we do not wait alone.... all of us on this forum are waiting together.
everyone else. I hope everyone is having a great night?!
We need you to keep in touch to give us hope around here.
A wellness retreat sounds perfect - I'm so jealous. Is your DP going too? It sounds like you could do with the time together. I can totally sympathise with feeling angry with your body. I didn't eat for about a week. I'd been forcing myself to eat when I didn't feel like it due to m/s for 4 weeks and I just didn't see the point in forcing myself if I wasn't hungry. It was only me that would suffer now. As long as DP lets you rant and rave and then holds you when you cry.
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