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  1. #1
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Cairns QLD
    138

    hey girls its been a couple of days since my last post and jumped on last night and saw how much has been going on since I last had a check of this wonderful thread. My hubby came up when I was just about ready to post and gave me this look, like 'what are you doing, what about me, I feel neglected, who are you writing too etc etc..so had to leave it.

    Hey Tam - I checked out the OV Watch and looks like I may buy it, am a bit broke at the moment with the market the way it is we've been margin called a few times. I also referred it a friend and looks like she may buy it too so we can then compare notes...oh yes and congrats on DH's sperm....its a goer, so goodluck ttcing!!!

    Ruthie - I loved that poem you wrote and had to email it my friend who lost her first bub at 23 weeks, I cried reading it. Stay strong luv and look we are just about at the end of
    Sept!!! soon it will be October and you only have like 4 weeks ...roll on November...am thinking of you.

    Annabee - welcome, its shame you had to go through this but Im sure you'll get your forever baby just like I KNOW we all will. I'm ttcing and only God knows what my cycle is up to at the moment as I have no idea...a first for me after my m/c in August.

    Dellydoo - enjoy the retreat......rest up and fill us in with lots of stories

    Krystie - how's your sticky bean growing faster everyday Im sure, can't wait for it to be all of us, how did your parents react??

    Toccara - lots of babydust and stickyvibes and hugs to you too I hope you get your BFP very very soon you sure are a strong woman.

    Jen & Angelbabies (a great inspiration!!! luv reading your posts you are always so positive and helpful full of unbelievable knowledge!)

    AFM - have had a bit of brown spotting the last couple of days, not sure if its from some rough DTD or am going to have a visit from AF, I only stopped bleeding from m/c just over 2 weeks ago, can this happen??????

    Big hellos and babydust and stickyvibes to all who I've forgotten and luv reading about.... BFP's all round

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Sydney, Australia
    53

    everyone,

    Dont have time to read thru everyone's posts ATM so will have to check back in later and get the updates.

    Anneebee....

    So i'm not thinking this month is the one for me... AF hasn't arrived and havent had any signs/symptoms of her impending arrival but just not feeling pg either... a bit nauseous but not sick like i was when i was pg.

    Jen i signed up on fertility friend. Dunno if it is the BEST idea considering my slightly OCD nature Don't have a decent thermometer yet.. waiting for payday.. but have been using a mercury one for the last couple of days. As for the rest of the signs/symptoms you can chart - I'm still struggling to differentiate sticky from watery from creamy CM!!! I'll get the hang of it all soon.

    Hubby still away.. he is working in Fiji - lucky bugger. He calls me last night to tell me he is working on Mel Gibson's private island... but he has to go because he is having dinner with Mel's son! He has started to name drop hahaha. Hope he will be back soon so we can get some more happening.

  3. #3
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    Mar 2008
    California
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    mollycat--You booked me a seat.... Good stuff!

    Hey, you aren't trying to get rid of me, are you? I don't know.... you'll all have to hog-tie me up and take away my computer to get me to leave this thread even after I'm pg!



    dellydoo--It's amazing how therapeutic laughter can be! Not only in others making you laugh, but to make other's laugh when right before that they wanted to cry.... it's awesome! I hope it works for you--let me know! Enjoy your blissful retreat at the "Sanitarium" Eeek, Nurse Ratchet! Hope they let you keep your computer!



    Emmykate--Yay for FF!! You can also link it to your signature if you want to, that way us chart stalkers have a new chart to stalk! The CM isn't as hard to differentiate as the CP! When I first tried figuring that one out, I was sure I didn't even have a cervix because everything felt the same! And trust me, when you've got watery CM, you'll know it.... you'll say, "Oooooh, so this is what jen was talking about!" You'll see.... ROFLMAO The thermometer you're using should do fine for now, it just takes a lot longer than the digital ones... but hey, of all people, I completely understand how it is to be a little short on cash! Girls, we're about to have a new addict on our hands!

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    Mar 2008
    California
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    Krystie--Hey, I just had a fabulous idea! Since you're pg you won't be able to fit into that cute little wizard chick costume anymore....aw, shucks.... so does that mean I get first dibs???? Wouldn't want a cute little thing like that to go to waste! Can I have your whip, too? *whip*

    What a great way to tell your parents! I'll bet they were so excited! Ok, and I just have to ask.... sms'd?.... I'm sure it's like sending a text.... but what does it stand for?



    Ok, there's lot's of us TTC'ers... I'm going to give it a go with the names... there's lots of newbies, so forgive me if I forget a name or two (hopefully not, tho!)... here goes...


    for Angel, mollycat, Toccara, jenushka, issy, Van, Chappas, WTH, Megsmum, Easha, Ruthie, Babyfever, dellydoo, Mannie, hannah, jade, Tam, anneebee, Emmykate, babymiracle, babyjubz, treelo, Abbey, Rachel B, babbs, babyonboard, Louise, and MummyO3B

  5. #5
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    Mar 2008
    California
    1,665

    smilanatu--Hey, my friend! Hope you're having a good weekend!



    Sending out bucket loads of to all those beautiful preggie friends of ours: Krystie (and of course, Little Chyan! *kiss*), joey, fifi, larz, pbstar, tutmae, tina, plc, AJC, Katiegirl, nickster, Rachel S, and Leyza



    Me--Just waiting to see what tomorrow's temp does...

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    Hot & Sunny Queensland, Oz
    27

    Good morning ladies. Feeling a bit queezy and under the weather this morning. DH & I went out drinking and dancing until 5 this morning. Had a fantastic time and should actually be feeling worse than I do in comparison to how much grog we drank, so I can't complain really. For all the pregnant ladies reading this, I'm having my second (really really strong) cappacino for the morning and might even go back for a third later. Jealous aren't yas. Well I'd trade all the drinking, late nights, dancing and cappacinos in heartbeat to be having m/s instead.

    I've got a funny story. This morning on the way home from partying we got dropped off in front of a sex shop near our home. We were sharing a taxi with other people so we got dropped off on on the main road and walk the rest of the way. I'm just trying to justify that we don't regularly go to sex shops .... not that there's anything wrong with that. Anyway we were drunk so we went in to have a look-see. OMG. That place has some amazing things and some totally ridiculous things that couldn't possibly fit. Needless to say I bought us some type of contraption to spice up our DBing. You should have seen DH face. I thought for sure I was getting lucky. We went home and DH got into bed while I was brushing my teeth and before I'd finished he was already snoring. What is a girl to do? lol

    Because i'm new to the forum experience, I found it weird last night to be thinking about you girls and what's going on your lives. I really do find comfort and support in the presence of you wonderful ladies. I never knew it would be like this. It took me a while to find you girls but the search was worth it. Thank you all for welcoming me into your circle of love. I'm give you all a big .

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Oct 2007
    Hunter Valley, NSW
    624

    Jen - not trying to get rid of you. Couldn't possibly do that, but if we can keep sending people into paml thread we'll get to close this one down. Just think in the last few weeks we've had joey and krystie, still got time for a couple more in sept.



    anneebee3 - sounds like you had lots of fun last night - it's always the way with DH's isn't it? It's good to let your hair down occasionally - and you might as well do it now while you can cause soon it will be m/s time


    Krystie - What a beautiful way of sharing great news.

  8. #8
    Registered User

    Mar 2008
    California
    1,665

    anneebee--Sounds like you had some fun last night--or at least you were about to until DH fell asleep! You should've bought yourself something that could still be used without DH around! I'm so shy, if I go into a store like that I walk around with a red face the whole time thinking that everyone's looking to see what I'm going to get! I find the internet saves me some embarrassment! Although I've never tried it drunk before, that could be a good time--I'm a little less inhibited when I'm drunk!


    It was a shock to me to realize how consumed I became with this site and the friends I've made here... so much so I still find myself half listening to DF.... saying lots of "yeah's"..... and "Mmm hmmm's".... when I'm really thinking about what's going on in everyone's lives! But don't tell him that! I'm telling you, we're a very addicting bunch--just wait until you find the chat room!



    mollycat--Would love to empty this thread out! There's way too many of us here! Still waiting for that mass exodus into the PAML thread!

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    Sep 2008
    Hot & Sunny Queensland, Oz
    27

    Jen - I thought I was in a chat room. I didn't realise there was a difference between a forum and a chat room. I feel so old. You're impressing me with your determination not to POAS. I don't know how you can hold out. Every month I tell myself that I'm not going to test, but every little pain, twinge, blue vein, sore throat, etc is definitely a sign that I'm pregnant. I think I talk myself into testing (unfortunately several times last cycle) because I was so sure I had all the symptoms, but the tests kept coming up negative. Then I start to think that batch of tests must to faulty. I've even convinced DH that the tests were wrong, so we use a different brand ... still negative. Well then I start thinking I must have implanted late this cycle because I did have a bad flu with fevers and temperatures so I couldn't work out when I ovulated so i probably ovulated later, etc, etc. It gets worse, when AF finally arrives, I think maybe I'm one of those women who continue to get AF during their pregnancy. So I try to convince myself that there's a chance I'm still pregnant with half a dozen BFN and AF. Now that's positive (wishful) thinking. I'm a shocker.

    Has anyone else had shocker (obsessive) months like that? I'm not sure if I'm just super keen because we finally have been given the green light to try for another bubba, but I seriously thought I had symptoms though.

  10. #10
    BellyBelly Member

    Jun 2008
    Brisbane
    185

    Hi All,

    Just thought I would pop in and say hi to you all

    Hope you are all doin well and are hanging in there together like only BB women can !!

    Nothing really to report from me still TTC , Ov again in about a week so will just keep going I guess.

    Keeping my mind off this has been good for me actually although it still gets me down when I see pregnant women - there are 9 pregnant women in my workplace at the moment

    Why cant one be me

    Anyhow - enough of the pity party

    Will continue to drop in to check on your

    Miss you all

  11. #11
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Sydney, Australia
    53

    Anneebee3: I have POAS x 5 in the last 10 days just cos i want to be pg again!!!! Every time i have a little nausea or a headache or am craving something to eat or weeing ten times a day my hopes go up... and sometimes i think i am just dead set trying to convince myself into being pg. I only m/c 3 weeks ago.. so i think i might be an obsessive nutter too

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    Mar 2008
    California
    1,665

    anneebee--Don't worry, I've had my obsessive months.... it's just gotten to where I know my body really well, and I can see the pattern on my chart doing the same thing it did for the last couple months, so it's not hard for me to determine that I don't need to waste the money on something that I already know is going to be a BFN! But I still obsess over each twinge.... and I did the whole "faulty test" theory on a previous cycle, as well! I'm surprised my poor bb's haven't fallen off yet due to getting poked and prodded a thousand times a day to see if they're getting sensitive! Last month I even overlayed my chart with other charts that had low post O temps in the hopes that maybe I could convince myself that mine would be like that, too! And I have to confess, so that you don't feel alone in this, there's not a month that goes that I don't hope I'm still pg even tho AF has already arrived! It's my temps that help me decide not to test--not any great determination or willpower!

    Yes, there's a difference between a forum and a chat room. The forum is similar to an e-mail, so when you hit post, it comes thru fairly quickly, but sometimes it can take a few minutes to go thru (or maybe that just happens to me since I'm in California). But a chat room goes thru almost instantly, so it's much more of a conversation that you're having back and forth, instead of waiting for that e-mail type post to come thru. Plus there's all kinds of cool sounds you get to make when you're in the chat room! I didn't discover it for several months, but now it's become another addiction of mine!



    Easha! Always good to hear from you--although it seems few and far between! Miss hearing from you! Good luck next week with O!



    Emmykate & anneebee--I feel for you both.... unfortunately it's been almost 7 mo's since my m/c, but I can remember just wanting so badly to fall pg right away! I remember being so confused as to what my body was doing and where I was at in my cycle, and whether I was fertile or had O'ed or not. That's what finally convinced me to start temping, so that I wasn't always questioning what was going on. We like to use the term dedicated here as opposed to obsessed! Obsessed just sounds so negative, while dedicated at least makes you feel good! Anyhow, I just wanted to give you both a big and let you know that you're not alone in this type of thinking.... I still clearly know those feelings.... the painful yearning for your little angel.... the longing of just wanting to be pregnant again.... the feelings like you can't even possibly be happy again until you're pg again..... and time just seems to go extra slow, making it seem like it's taking forever! I you both find some peace and comfort among us here and are blessed with BFP's very quickly!

  13. #13
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    Mar 2008
    California
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    I'm it's going to be a BFP for you, issy! Your symptoms sound awfully promising! I've got everything crossed for you! Here's some extra to roll around in!


    My temp dropped even further today, and I've got cramps... so I'm pretty positive AF will be here at some point today... tomorrow at the latest. I'm ok with it, not thrilled, but it's what I've been expecting for the last several days, so at least it's not a shock or anything unexpected. It is what it is...a pain in the arse, but I'm sure there's a silver lining somewhere in all this... I've just not found it yet!


    Angel--Focusing ALL my positive thoughts and energy on your IUI today! Saying ch!t loads of for DH's little C'mon guys... there's your prize... 2 big, beautiful eggs....go get 'em! As always, Krystie and I will be there with you--hey, maybe they'll let us give those little spermies a pep talk before they begin--blow on them for good luck, or something! How long will it take for them to know if it works? Ooh, Nuff.... really feel like this is going to be IT! Enjoy your day off--and stay OFF your feet! Love you, girl! *kiss*

  14. #14

    Dec 2007
    USA, Kansas
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    EmmyKate- Sorry you got a BFN Hopefully your just to early its hard to resest POAS early. I usually spend a good 100$ on First Response Pregnancy tests a month. Its horrible addiction!.
    I'm sorry for your loss of your little angel. Its been 2 months since I lost my baby & Sometimes I Sit back and think were I would be at in the pregnancy by now and I would be 15 weeks. I hope AF stays away darling and you get your BFP in a few days. :fingers:.


    Mannie- About your spotting, That could be left over from your bleeding that you had 2 weeks ago and just now is coming out, Or your cervix could be irritated from the sex and caused some spotting. I did have sex right after my M/C and I did spot afterwards (of coarse this was after my bleed) So about a week later. So it shouldn't be another AF..

    Anna-Wow! Sound's like you and DH had a blast, On the excpetion of the after effect of Ahcahol. . I'm a big dancer myself. Unfortantly, On my birthday we went to shooters (to play pool) & she wasn't sure of were the clubs were around here. We had a blast. I was beyond wasted & vomited all over the out side area there.. Oh sex shops are so fun! Sorry Dh crashed before you could try out your new "thing" you bought! What a party pooper.. lol. When you do use it tell us how intresting and well it worked.. ;-)... Sounds like a wonderful time.
    Oh the cappicheno thing, I have those once and while while pregnant. I'm not big on choch anyways. You can have you hot cappicheno all you want sweets... :-D. Enjoy for the rest..

    Issy- Hey sweets, How are you doing? Sorry to hear your dog tired. Me too, I want to sleep all day!.. Oh good luck on the POAS I'm betting it will be BFP.. Hope AF keeps away and stays away.


    Jen- I that your BFP comes here very soon... How was your weekend.???


    to everyone I missed..

    ATM-I'm very sleepy and have been going to bed early and sleeping hard but I still don't want to wake up when I have too.. I feel so groggy!. My BB's keep getting bigger & now getting sore, I have horrible M/s but havn't quite vomited yet but close to it. I really hope that when it gets that bad DH will be next to my side holding my hair. Hes due to be home tomarrow at midnight. I will also getting my BT resutls back toamrrow.

  15. #15
    Registered User

    Oct 2007
    Caroline Springs
    2,341

    Hi girls, thanks for all the well-wishes and for thinking of me It was a lot of fun telling my parents and I can't wait until you all get to do the same! We even told my step sons today. They were thrilled. They both only want a sister though. To the extent that they are talking about selling each other on ebay if we have a boy

    I'll be back in a few minutes with some persies. I'm jsut going through the posts now to see how you are all doing