thread: Trying to Conceive after Still Birth/ Late Loss/Recurrant Miscarriage ~ December 2008

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  1. #1
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    Sydney
    232

    Thanks Lan, sorry for the fright. You are right, after what we have all been through, she is sooooo minor and I will not give her another thought. I also demand she stays away from us for the next 10 months! It is all up to you to get us a BFP before end of year!

    Sorry you had to escape early. Oh it is all so hard

    I have a house full of family for Xmas Eve dinner tomorrow night and I just want to call and cancel. Boo to all things Xmas related...

  2. #2
    2014 BellyBelly RAK Recipient.

    Dec 2008
    Melbourne, VIC
    4,637

    Oh girls you are just so funny ! ( I feel right at home )

    Diana ( aka dd0207 aha ! I now know your name now ) I'm sorry hun for the set back. But you know, it's only a wee one and a small hurdle. You'll get there hun, I know 2009 will be a good year for us.
    I know what you mean about xmas, I'm putting on a brave face for DF but I also find myself thinking heaps of Joshua, and it makes me sad .
    PS Good on you for telling that beautician girl exactly how you felt instead of pretending everything is OK. That was nice of her to give you a hug and a box of tissues....Sending you a huge hug hun

    Hammi, thanks for your welcome hun, I'm really liking this group of all you lovely girls, there is so much support here.

    Hugs hugs to all

    Beata xx

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Canungra, Gold Coast
    144

    Hello all you wonderful ladies!

    Beata70 - Thanks - it is so hard. I never imagined this is how our Christmas would turn out and my heart is breaking. I can't stop crying and everything is upsetting me and I am getting so angry at all these people who are celebrating when I feel like dying! I never thought life could be so unfair. I will keep praying that we all get our BFP's in 2009. Oh - and the name thing is fine - it happens all the time lol

    Katiegirl - thanks for the welcome. I have felt so much better in myself with all these wonderful ladies to talk to. I known it is an awful place to be but at least I know everyone here understands what I am going through- Instead of people who "imagine" what it's like!

    Berry1 - thank you so much for your kind words. I appreciate it more than you know.

    Rozzie27 - I kow what yo mean about the Christmas thing. I have not put up any decorations or even aknowledged it is Christmas. I a making a sacrifice by going to DP's parents (with my parents) for Christmas dinner (and I am dreading it as there will be 14 people there and I am not in a festive mood at all). We got Zachary;s autopsy results and there was no conclusive reason for his death. All his organs were normal and they could not find a reason. I am glad he was fine but it makes it harder to accept. I keep thinking - if he was so healthy, why did he die?

    dd0207 - I just want all this hooha to be over with too! I can't wait for everyone to get back to reality! I miss my Zachary so much. He would have been 5 months old tomorrow so I am not quite sure how I am going to be tomorrow. I just hope I can get through the day at work without having a meltdown. I am so sorry for your horrid experience - people just don't think (unfortunately). My thoughts and prayers are with you xxx

    Hammi - welcome back and thanks for the welcome. I feel very at home here and I love the fact that I can just be myself.

    Take care everyone and if I don't get a chance tomorrow - I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and a new year that sees your dreams coming true xxx

  4. #4
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    May 2008
    170

    Hi ladies,

    Diana, sorry to hear AF arrived, such bad timing she has at the moment!!! I know it's probably no consolation, but it's a good sign that you're body is back in a rhythm, next month you'll be rearing to go. I think good on you for crying in front of that girl. I really think that we feel so alone because losing babies is such a social taboo and people just don't think it happens, I think it's important to be honest about it so that there is more awareness.

    Theresa, that is really rough not having a cause for Zachary's loss. Again I hate to do the 'at least' bit because I know it doesn't help, but my OB told me that there is often no cause found, that there is a lot that medicine doesn't know about babies in the womb, and also that a second unexplained loss is extremely rare.

    Lan, you did so well to spend some time at all with your nephews and nieces. I've stayed away deliberately, I knew I couldn't deal with it. I hope the rest of your holiday is a bit more restful and you and DH have some quality lazing time together.

    Jo, hope you're OK and just too busy with your family to chat, wishing you a nice Christmas with your two earth angels and two heavenly angels.

    I cannt sleep in past 6 am these days (unless I have to work, then I have to drag myself out of bed, where is the logic???). Very odd.

    Love Rozzie

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Oct 2008
    Sydney
    155

    Hi ladies
    Sorry to crash in (some of you know me from the pg area), but I just wanted to let Diana know how sorry I am to hear that horrible wench AF arrived! I have been spying on you and was hoping for good news!
    Have a great xmas everyone and I hope all you lovely ladies TTC have lots of luck in 2009.
    Jo x

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Aug 2007
    Bridgewater Adelaide
    442

    Hi Ladies,

    I am so sorry I havent been around. It has been absolutely flat out at work and getting ready for Christmas.

    Just wanted to say hello to all the newbies and I hope all your dreams come true.

    Also I wish everybody a very Happy Christmas and 2009 is going to be a positive year for all......

    xxx Sue xxx

  7. #7
    Registered User

    May 2008
    215

    Jo - Hi how are you going in Hospital? I do a bit of spying on you too! I really hope the bed rest is helping, not a nice place to be for Xmas, but none the less the best place to be. I feel like I have a vested interest in you! Has the cervix length got any better? Here's cheers to it getting longer or even stable and you being able to go home in a few weeks.
    Merry Christmas (although most of us seem to be having a meltdown at the moment, including me!).
    Helen