Dory,
yep $400 and 6 demerit points...ouch. Anyway it was an accident and i hope it won't happen again. Simply can't afford it.
I love that you looovvee your ob. That is wonderful and it gives me hope that there is someone that special in Brisbane that may relate to my needs oneday. I need my emotional needs met too. I need to connect with the person to ensure the best out of me. My ob for DD only takes on special cases and i am not sure i would want her again. She stopped caring as soon as dd was born and that made me uneasy. I would love midwifery care as my first choice for DD was meant t o be a home birth until it all went pear shape.
One of my fav tort/rav fillings would be beetroot and goatscheese. We had a gorgeous combo tonight...fennel, beetroot, pine nuts and ricotta. Delicious. Those go really well with roast salmon too.
Good for you hun to take things in your own hands re the job. How empowering and this feels good for taking it easier too. Great news hun. I bet you feel fab...and a lot lighter too.
Gigi1 - ouch indeed. Just what you didn't need. I do love my ob, for lots of reasons. I think it is ultimately because he actually seems to care about me as a person and not just as a patient? He is pretty quiet and reserved until you get to know him. He is a thinker, but is ultimately also just a decent human being doing a job he seems to love.
I have never really thought about it before, but he does consider and meet my emotional needs, well as much as he can in his role. I don't expect miracles.
If you can, get a hold of the book by Anne & Michael Murray - called "When the dream is shattered". They give a really good chapter on advice to caregivers and in my mind my ob meets all of the "wish list". Possible only one further addtion would be "not to take holidays!" - but that's just selfish of me. As books go, it is the book that out of all the books I have read that helped me the most. It is very hard to come by, but is referred to a lot. I would try the SANDS library. The Bris City Council library doesn't have it and I haven't been able to source my own copy...... yet. Oh he also has an impeccable sense of confidentiality. My GF's mother's friend sees the same Dr for gynae reasons and when my GF was due, the woman was asking about my GF and the Dr just smiled and disclosed nothing. Reassuring to know. I suppose I just also feel welcome? Nothing is too much trouble. Even just the way he prepares me for things that are likely to happen or decisions I will need to make. Always does so in a way that gives me time to think and ask questions. I could go on ad nauseum. I suppose I just feel so blessed, I can imagine how hard this would be if I felt unsupported by my ob. But it's like everything, it's a personal relationship and will depend on personalities. But for me, it works magic.
I thought about not going back after Amelia, not because I was disatisfied, but a vague thought that the Dr wouldn't want me as a patient anymore, and maybe a change would be good? I decided on balance, apart from being happy with the "package", that it was amazingly helpful to have someone who knew my experiences and who had guided me through them with such sensitivity. I didn't have to retell my experiences over and over. It's almost like a shared knowledge. After having had the experience of having to repeat my experiences over and over, it is such a relief not to have to do it with the ob. That in itself helps.
If you ware thinking of a change, I suppose there is no harm in making an appointment to see if you like the "package". Sort of like window shopping?
Today was honestly the best. After DH went to work? I went back to bed and slept for 2 hours. The end result is I am tired, but not exhausted and not tired to the bone, nor has the M/S been as intense today, and I reckon that is a direct result of not being so tired. I can't believe I went back to work for a week!!! I told DH that I have a new job now, to grow and nuture the baby. I reckon that is a pretty important job.
Thankyou for letting me rave on again. Any opprotunity. Take care.
I wish I had good news to post here, but unfortunately AF arrived last Saturday night to coincide with the Chinese and lunar new year. So I am taking that as a sign of new beginnings.
This week work has been very busy. I have already decided that I am working way too hard and too long for someone who is supposed to be looking after herself while TTC. I haven't been to the gym for a few weeks now so that is my goal this week - to get to the gym at least 2 or 3 times. My hip/back is slowly recovering so now I need to start back gently. That is the tricky part for me - I tend to throw myself completely into everything. Maybe this is a lesson I need to learn?
Anyway, I am way behind on my washing and ironing and other chores for the weekend, so just a quick post today.
Bubo - welcome to our little support group. I am in the ACT also - we lost our little boy in March last year at 18 weeks. It took me many months to have the courage to post in this forum, so well done to you to have the strength to do that. The ladies here have been an enormous source of support for me. I hope you find the support network you need for you and DH. Be gentle with yourselves.
Dory - I am pleased that you have finished work. What a great new job you have! I wish I had that job too! Look after yourself and try not to become a domestic goddess now that you are at home full-time!
Blessedatlast - I hope the naturopath can help with extending the length of your cycles. It all sounds very promising. The vits sound very similar to what I am on as well. Although my TCM has me taking oestrogen during the first half of my cycle, and CoQ10 every day as well.
Gigi1 - your tortellini fillings sound fab! I let DH do most of the cooking as he is much quicker than me at chopping etc. but he does make a bigger mess! He makes pasta but usually only in winter and he has made some yummy ravioli but I think he needs to make some again sooner than that!
Hi to cmeglles, Beata, samcougar and everyone else. Hope you are all doing well.
oxo
Dory,
Thanks hun, i will look that book up. By emotional needs i mean- just to feel supported and considered. It sounds like he does that for you. That makes me happy for you babe. Enjoy your time at home sweety and i hope it is restful.
Chez,
I am sorry to hear that this was not your month. It is amazing what an affect the moon has on one's cycle. I am in awe of our positive outlook, you are so right- New Beginnings. What a wonderful thing to take note of. Thinking of you.
AFM,
Well i have, it appears contracted a virus. I found out nearly a week ago...thankfully before ovulation, that I have CMV in my system and it is active. Really not good for pregnancy so i have been told not to TTC for now. I was gutted to say the least and really concerned for a while there. Now i am just trying to focus on getting better. It has hit me a little with tiredness, dizzy moments, diarrhea, poor appetite and achy muscles. A lot of the time you don't know you have it as it can be symptom free.
I was feeling funny and totally amiss for TTC, just couldn't get in the mood and almost avoiding dtd this month...no libido, so tired. Went and got tested and this came up...thank god my body was telling me it was a no go. Anyway so i am quarantined from the kids and preg ladies in my life for a couple of weeks at least and i will get tested again. Taking homeopathics and resting.
I have also found that i have not ovulated like clockwork this month and until yesterday (today cd18) i thought either i didn't at all or it was back with my AF. I had EWCM with AF this time but didn't use OPK at that time of the cycle to know for sure as i was away. Anyway CM16 i had small amount of EWCM and then i have tested + for Ov yesterday and today. Very late for me. I am usually CD14 -16 at the absolute latest and on very rare occasion.
So there is something not quite right with my body atm which unnerves me. I am so bloated and with all the other symptoms i was feeling i did a POAS and it came up neg thank goodness. Never thought i would say that.
Just trying to keep my head on straight this month, a bit more to deal with than the usually.
Gigi - so sorry sweetie that you are feeling so poorly. What is CMV ?- it sounds like you are just physically miserable. The one good thing about your BB buddies is that you can't be quarrantined from us, no matter what virus you have.
I am sorry that it meant no TCC this cycle, but right now, better to focus on healing yourself.
Chez - Take it easy on yourself at work and with the housework. I was pushing myself too hard, and I realise that only now I have stopped. It's sad in a way that it took a scare for me to wake up to myself. But in reality all of my life, I have pushed myself, whether it be at work or at sports, and I just solider on, so not to do that takes a big mental adjustment. I struggle with it - I feel like I am not contributing or being lazy, but thats when I give myself a shake and say I am doing a very important job right now and that's my priority. So sadly despite my fantasties, I am not a domestic godess at the moment.
I do like your idea of a fresh beginning for chinese new year. year of the tiger - I hope its your year.
AFM? It sounds so stupid to say this aloud, but here goes. I just realised that on this date last year, my contractions started which heralded the most amazing moments and most heartbreaking moments of my life. I had been concentrating so much on Amelia's birth anniversary - 23 Feb - that I had completely forgotten about the events leading up to her birth. If I think about the day its self, which is easy to do on first anniversaries, I was in hospital. It's pretty sobering and I think now I have thought about the entireity ( can't spell this word today) of the events, I am pretty sad. I don't have anything in mind for 23rd Feb, I had a whole bunch of ideas, but nothing has come to fruition. But I am ok with that. It just kind of hit me, and I feel a bit shocked and numb now. Here comes my year of "firsts".
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