Kirsty - DH and I were going to take a break if the clomid didn't work (we got pregnant on the 6th and last effort). We were debating the effects of the IVF path we were facing and what we would do if that didn't work. We had made the decision that adoption was not for us and had considered how many cycles I would subject my body to IVF.

I immediately wanted another baby after Caitlyn. Not because I wanted to replace her but because I wanted a baby so very much. On the other hand, the stress of trying to get pregnant again was taking its toll on me and DH was worried he would never see the smiling and happy wife he once knew.

The fear of not having a baby overcame the fear of having a baby for me. You have to choose the path that is right for you and your family. If you do decide to proceed (and if you have recognised DH will not be the type of support you will need) then source the right supports pre-conception so you can be assured of a crutch every time you falter or need reassurance. We will be here in cyber space but you will also need the physical support too.

Whatever you choose will be the right decision at the time it is made