Auntie M Unfortunately some people just don't get it. I am so sorry that you had to put up with you SIL being so insensitive. There should be a book, that all family and friends receive after we have lost a baby. That way it could spare some of our pain. Maybe we should start to write one! Silence is one of the worst sounds in the world isn't it? I hate it, I just want a chaotic house full of screams and cries - the sound would be bliss instead of this heartbreaking silence.

Kat - I can understand you not wanting to be pg with your sister at the same time. The pg will be so different and you don't need the comparisons. You will be anxious and will have many fears whereas your sister will not. Big big to you. This journey is so hard and nothing is right or wrong, it is just making the best decisions for us at the time. :hugs: