Taking them some healthy food they can easily reheat is a winner, who wouldn't love that! Reading their situation I can't help but comment on the father..... Perhaps you can assist him in finding another days work (or even 1/2 a days work) and that money can pay for a cleaner once a week! So what if he is 55 and enjoys part time work, they chose to have more children and he should look after them. That may sound harsh but it's JMO