Thanks so much Cherish for your wonderful input ... (wasn't sure what your comment mean't about his age ... His a young at heart & fit for 55, though does have some recent health issues but that could happen to anyone at any given age, and yeh just cause one is older shouldn't determine whether they should be a parent again or not, i think you mean't it like that in a positive way Cherish )

His line of work isn't the same as mine or DP's so in that area we can't help him at all but he did mention yesterday that he is now looking for full-time work in his profession cause otherwise they are simply not going to make ends met financially with two newborns on the way, mortgage re-payments (they only purchased their 1st home last year), etc ...

DP & i spoke with them last night that they should get out together now more than ever, just the two of them before the twins are here and that we would gladly babysit their other child as often as they like !!