Hugs hun I understand how you feel. I know its not all about money, but I had friends who I spent a fortune on when they had bubs who hardley even asked how I was etc when DS1 was born consequently not friends now.

You do what feels ok for you, if you don't want to do meals etc dont.

Its very rude to always talk about ones self and never ask how others are doing especially when people have had issues themselves.