yeah I don't see a prob with it at all & I agree as above...there is no difference to a registry or money. They will still know what was on the list & how much it cost. Also with a registry the couple choose what gifts are on it, so if they were greedy they could choose all very expensive things & that prob would be worse IYKWIM.

I like the idea & yes we did it at our Wedding. I hate trying to choose a gift not knowing it it will be liked or used...giving money is sooo much eaiser. We had a wishing well so you just pop the money in - you did not have to say who it was from, though most had cards with them.

We were thankful for what we got, we did not judge anyone. It was our special day & we were just happy to have everyone there.

I think you also need to remember that the day is usually at a significant cost to the couple & they usually will be feeding you, you will be drinking free drinks & they will have paid for some sort of entertainment. Therefore most people have a fun time at the expense of the coupe as that's what they wish for their day, but it doesn't hurt to then give what they have asked in return IYKWIM. It doesn't have to be lots, receiving something is better than nothing & if you want to get a gift then go for it....we got gifts also & they were great too.