Is this rude ? ... Wedding ... Couple asking for money as a gift !!

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A huge " THANK YOU " to everyone for giving me such insight into the subject asked

... I understand that more couples are going this way in asking for monies as a Wedding Gift BUT I hadn't realised that some couples simply don't give you a choice ... That's where I personally do still think that is a rude gester to be asking for money ONLY

Whether it be in a poem or not, it's still ' asking for money ' no matter what way it is written !!!!

... And for the Wishing Well idea my SIL had that for her Wedding last year & I honestly looked through the romantic notion that it's meant to give !!! I felt sickened when I witness SIL & her new DH mentioned that they got more money then they expected & that they should have got married earlier ... The money as a gift ONLY lost the special thought's & caring efforts that any guests could have put into a purchased gift.

Honestly how hard is it to find a Wedding Gift Next it will be MONEY asked for at 18th & 21st birthday parties !!!!!

I myself could NEVER ask for MONEY for a Wedding Gift no matter which way I went about asking for it.

Today's society has become so money orientated that it looks like they have lost the idea of 'giving' a gift !!!!!!!!

Call me old fashion but if I'm going to ask for money as a gift I would much rather save ' some guests ' (I'm not saying that's ALL guests) the embarrassment. I as a personal choice would rather ASK for NO GIFTS on my invites if it came to that.

It would mean more to me that everyone joined in & helped celebrate the Wedding Day & if they want to give a gift, it would be accepted with gratefulness & cherished as something sentimental, even if it was a toaster.

I do know for a fact some of the Elderly relatives that I have come across themselves feel this has become a rude manner of today's society, that couples ask ONLY for money as a Wedding Gift

As for Wedding in question that I have been invited to, this Family sadly does judge people by their financial status. That's clearly one of the reasons why I have great concern in giving money as their Wedding Gift

THANK YOU " SNOOPEA " ... for making me feel like I'm not the only one here feeling like it is something considered rude in manner

... Thanks once again to ALL for your input ... It is very much so greatly appreciated :