in addition to the girls comments of ' if my baby isnt invited then im not going'
If i couldnt take my DD to that wedding that was fine, and i was fine with that - no hard feelings at all as i understand the stress of a large family (over 170 at my wedding and we are only talking imediate family/and first cousins/aunts etc)...

I would have stayed home and DH would have gone on his own out of respect for the bride and groom )