I'm not offended if DS isn't invited - I just can't attend. No babysitters. I also think it's a bit rude to ask DH to take 3 days off work, attend a weekday wedding 300-oddkm away from my home and NOT bring a 4-month-old with me. But I couldn't attend that one because DH couldn't get the time off, not because of DS (well, not soley because DS wasn't invited).

I can understand not wanting children around. I HATE having kids running riot, running under tables, making a mess, a noise during speeches... that's the 7-year-olds, mind, not the babies and toddlers!

I had over 150 family attend my wedding and that was with no young children - the young ie under teenage children of my parents' cousins were not invited. Then friends on top of that. It's not a bad thing to want an adult day, especially if you don't have children of your own. But you also have to see that travelling a long distance with a tiny baby just after a car crash and then the baby isn't invited and you have no babysitters you can trust... not going to happen.