that was the other problem I had - very little say in who was to be invited.
ahhhh being a stubborn red head has it's advantages! NO ONE was brave enough to try stepping on my toes as to guest list!

we had one family say they'd not have their kids with them, but at the last minute their babysitter fell through (4 kids) - we'd over catered though just in case - and put a few more chairs around for kids

i think a lot of it is just about how people perceive their perfect day - for us, it was spit roast smorgasboard, so it was easy to over cater - for other's it's a set three course menu, so no so easy for catering. for some, the perfect wedding venue for their ceremony has a reception venue attached so they have to cater to numbers that way.

i don't think i'd have felt right not having kidlets there to be honest! but it really is a very personal thing...