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Rory I hope DH starts to improve soon doesnt sound to nice, I bet the cold isnt helping any eather...
Just thought I would let you all know that i have put some photo's in the Gallery and on FB of our time in the snow....
I swear I will no longer complane about the weather anymore or at least I will try to keep my neg thoughts to myself
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Anyone else have funeral experiences with their kids? Oscar was completely unaware of the occasion, and though GFIL would have had a laugh at Oscar's 'irreverence', I could feel the judgement thick in the air. I heard my SIL's mother say (none too quietly and probably a bit smugly), about my niece, 'she was very good, wasn't she?' to my SIL. Bite me; her kids are ALL very quiet and compliant by nature - a funeral is a HUGE ask for a kid like Oscar and the fact that he didn't bring the casket crashing to the ground is a GOOD thing, considering that he is well-capable of such a thing! Anyway, the whole thing was weird because I felt that even DP left Oscar-wrangling to me. I'm feeling very displaced ATM, yesterday highlighted this! Felt like my SIL was distancing herself from me and Oscar, too. Hope it's just my persecuted imagination...
Oscar has been VERY cute and showing concern for me. When I'm having a more severe coughing fit (I don't feel sick anymore, it's just the cough that's abating daily), he comes over to me and says "Mummy, you ok?"...how can I not smother him in snuggles when he does that? He's actually asked it, too, when DP was tickling me and I shrieked - I had to start laughing, instead, so that he could see DP wasn't attacking me! He's such a good little buddy
As for my Huggies Pull Ups samples, I used the first one last night as an overnight measure and it worked fine - FYI if you were thinking of using theseI'd rather not use them, let alone promote them because I hate to throw disposables in the bin (and the idea of adding to landfill for more than my minimal household rubbish purposes irks me no end), but I'll continue the trial and maybe give some away.It feels a bit of a waste, because when he's not wearing the PeaPods, he wears undies and doesn't need these 'trainers'. Oh, well, I'll have to answer these screening surveys even more cynically to avoid being selected to trial things I don't really believe in! The upshot is that overnight, for an overnight breastfeeder, the not yet released design works well thus far.
Better get back to this online lecture I'm listening to, then go get my mini-monster from childcare.
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Mayasorry to hear you felt that you had the only NORMAL child there... When FIL died I had to control two winkies and May was only 14 mths... She screamed when BHL went up to make a speech as she wanted to be with him... I was given one of the back rows as Mil thought it would be best if just she and her kids BHL and SIL sat at the frount with her... I am glad in away it was better for us... Lucky Oscar doesnt speck to much as resently when BHL fav uncle passed we went over to MILs and while BHL and her were talking about him they saud his name which was John... Anyway the second they said it May come out in the loudest voice ever...
John? John? John is knock knock knocking on hevens door....
BHL and I didnt know where to look, MIL just pursed her lips... now that I think about it was kinda funny.... Not that MIL would ever see it that way... I am sure John got a good laugh at it he had a soft spot for May... the thing is we had not told May he had died....
I guess what I am trying to do is tell you not to feel bad that you have a normal child... Children dont understand death the way we see it we see it as a time to reflect on a persons life... They just see a lot of Adults sad and crying which isnt normal for them so they either cry themselves or try to defuse the situation by talking and been nosiy...
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Maya - I have had only one experience thankfully! When my nan died last June, I had both kids with me. Chelsea was 4 1/2 and Marley nearly 12 months old. I had to do a eulogy so DH took care of Marley and Chelsea was wonderful, she just sat still trying to work out what was going on! Marley did pretty well, she was getting a bit restless toward the end but it didn't go for too long. Afterwards, we stayed for tea/coffee etc and she just crawled around everyone, picking up the crumbs off the floor! Surely people have to understand that a 2 year old has no idea of the occasion and Oscar was just being himself. Each child is different and SIL mother shouldn't be comparing the two, esp at a funeral, have some respect! Maybe DP was a little distracted by the day? Glad to see Oscar is looking after his mummy, very cute.
Bath - you are right, NYE was a stinker. It didn't go below 28 all night. That kind of heat I can do without lol!
Tali - Melbourne, 4 seasons in one day. Just look at today, we've had it all!!! But it would not have been fun being caught in the hail storm. My GF took her 2 yo DD to see a speech therapist as she was concerned about her speech. When she asked my GF how many words her DD said, she thought maybe 20. She then gave her a list and asked to mark off all the ones she says. She gave it back to the speech therapist and there were 50 words!! She said you don't realise how many words they actually say. They also include sounds they make as words such as moo, woof, etc. Sometimes the words don't come out right but they are still words none the less and I am sure Kai knows exactly what she is trying to say - its just hard for us to understand. The therapist just told my GF to keep reiterating words to her. When she wanted something, encouraging her to say what she wanted or keep repeating it back. The snow pictures are hilarious, the look on May's face in a few of them is priceless!
Rory - very worrying for you and DH. Hope things start to improve for him, it must frustrate the hell out of him.
Kids are doing really well apart from Chelsea who has a bit of a cough that won't leave her (bit like you Maya). We had some visitors in the back yard on Sunday, 2 ducks!!! Marley was delighted and tried to chase them everywhere. Once the bread came out, they were following her. Chelsea hates ducks and chickens so she was not going anywhere near them. When she was about 2, we went to Chesterville Farm at Scoresby and a chicken sneaked up behind her, she turned around and freaked out and now doesn't like them despite my attempts to explain that they are not going to hurt her. She woke up during the night Sunday saying she thought ducks were in her room!!! Might be a life long fear!
Dress up day at school was a big hit. I put some photos of FB and a couple here in the gallery. She even wore the costume again most of Saturday, so at least I am getting my moneys worth.
Hope everyone and their bubba's are doing well.
Better be off, time to go home
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Thanks Tali and Mel - your experiences have contextualised my own and I'm feeling a bit better for it. Funny how I'm going over it in my head and Oscar's well beyond whatever happened yesterday. Very funny how May decided at that moment to recall an old song!! It's definitely funny. Didn't take long for me, DP and DP's cousin to have a small giggle about Oscar climbing through the casket holder thing!
Rory - what news about DH's health status?
Oscar is asking for Babu again, better go deliver!
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Maya- I have had one such experience aswell when my nan passed away last October. Tyron was just 12days old at the funeral so ofcourse didnt make a peep and my MIL actually came and minded Nixon for us, i knew he would be hard work and with a newborn and still recovering from my c/s was a bit much for me at the time. Nixon never really knew his nan because most of his life we were living in Melb
However my sister had her 2 girls there who were 3 and 18m and they were pretty good but same thing when my sister got up to speak they wanted to follow her. they
i dont think u can expect a toddler to sit there and understand its time to be quiet.....
even today we visited a friend who had a baby yest, Nixon was great until it came to the time of leaving and he screamed the hosp down. me telling him that there were newborn babes trying to sleep wasnt going to mean a thing to him!
anyway so happy for my gf, they had been trying for 7yrs and gone through so much to get this little bub, he is so cute, great size 8lb 10oz and she did it all in 4hrs and drug free!
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where is everyone??
anyway just wanted to say wow Amanda at 33weeks!! how are you feeling? love your belly shot in your avater.
taking Nix to the docs in the morning. he has always been a snorer and recently gotten a lot worse, ive done a lot of reading about it and doesnt seem right, there is also a common link between this and prems esp those that were ventillated, so anyway i am hoping to get a refferal to see someone asap, he actually has pauses in his breathing and sometimes really struggles to get that breath in so im anxious to get it looked at.
Tyron started saying mum and is clapping and pointing! omg only 6weeks and he will be a 1yr old!
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Hey girls, thinks are on the improve with DH - he is going in for cario-aversion (basically a heart-jumpstart!) on Wednesday. He is much better but it still sucks.
At least it is not life threatening - a friend's DH died of liver cancer a month ago so I try to keep things in perspective.
Love to all
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