shell - i'll be going on tuesday, better try to fit in one last bit of exercise before i go!
woo hoo! good on DJ on increasing his sleep time!!
just had a nice big din din, time to go play with poopy, his royal highness has woken up.
xoxox
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shell - i'll be going on tuesday, better try to fit in one last bit of exercise before i go!
woo hoo! good on DJ on increasing his sleep time!!
just had a nice big din din, time to go play with poopy, his royal highness has woken up.
xoxox
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Dilemma’s
Hi all, I am sitting here wondering what to do about our financial situation, at the moment we survive. We live fairly comfortably but are on a pay-check to pay-check basis and do struggle to pay bills on time sometimes though they always get paid. I love spending my days with Jake and watching him grow and I don’t want to miss out on seeing our son grow up but on the other hand I want to get ourselves established before we decide to add to our brood so buying a house is paramount to this.
I have been offered a job working 5 days a week from 7am till 5:30 pm on a VERY good wage (almost a six figure sum per annum) and it is an easy job too, driving a loader and dump truck. There may be a way to get Jake to come with me if I can take the crusher operator position but that is not certain as yet. If I could do that it would be awesome! But at this stage I am working on having to put Jake into the care of a good friend’s mother.
The dialema is how to decide what the best course of action is, Jake would be very well cared for if he were to go to my friends mothers place however am I neglecting my duties as a mother to be putting him into care so early (he will be four months). Taking this job on will mean we will be able to put some serious savings away and really take a giant leap ahead in getting to where I want to be (stay home mum who runs a small agistment property ). I am planning to only be working for a year at the most so will be returning to Jake full time by the time he is 16 months old, about the time according to Brett that I am supposed to have another child! Eeeeeeek!
So what would you do? Take the job for a year, with the sacrifice of missing out on a larger portion of your son’s first year and set your lives up or struggle for the next few years but spend the quality time with your child??? Why would you choose what you did??
Cheers
Lisa
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Lisa you certainly have a dilema and I'll just say now that this is a very personal choice. I chose not to return to full time work with my first two unless DH could look after them and will be doing the same this time.
I went back to work for 5 months while DH looked after our first (he worked nights). The hardest part was that I wasn't her most imprtant person anymore. When she got upset she wanted her dad because that was her primary carer. Great for him sad for me. Over the years I have worked/studied around my kids with the support of my DH. We don't have grand parents readily available.
So I suppose I would weigh up if this choice is for the greater good (will allow me to stay at home later on) and if I could live with someone else having a large input into my child's life.
Go with your gut. You could always quit work if you found it wasn't working for you or Jake. Good luck
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Lisa this is a catch 22 question. Unfortunately I don't think anyone can answer except you.
We are in a similar situation, living paycheck by paycheck and usually by the time we've done shopping, paid rent, paid bills and gotten petrol for 2 cars, we are left with a very, very small amount for the rest of the fortnight.
I'm sad to say this but I think for you and for me and for just about every mother, no matter what decision is made there will always be some regret for making that choice.
I personally think that the hours you mentioned are huge and I don't think I could jump straight from nothing back to those sort of hours.
For me I will need to ease back into the workforce by working (hopefully) 2-3 full days or 5 part days a week. I know beyond any doubt that I'm not ready for full time work.
Before Jazz was born I thought that I would be ready to work full time again when I went back to work, but I know now that just isn't so. If you are ready to do that then good on you and I wish you the best of luck.
One thing though, no one has the right to judge whatever decision is made. We each have to do what is right for our situation and our family. No one else knows what's best for your family, unfortunately often we ourselves don't even know what's best, but we do know better than anyone else.
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Lisa - I know how u feel. I've been thinking about it, but I can't leave Jesse yet. Not full time anyway. After Jaz I worked casually for my mum, which helped. She was about 6 weeks. But after Bri I didn't do anything til she was 18 months when I started working at the pub at home, but that was only 2 nights a week. Sometimes 3. About $100 - $250 a week. It was our have fun money. The rest went to bills. What I earnt was for takeaway, & going out etc.
I would like something like that again, just to kinda get out of the house too, but I'm not game enough to work in a pub here. We moved an hour & a half away to a bigger town. Where we lived before there are only about 250 people & most of them are out of town. I knew everyone. There are a few thousand people here & I don't know any of them.
Then there's day care. It really just doesn't seem worth it unless I'm making good money, but then I'd have to be away from the kids more.
The decision is way too hard.
Danni - Jesse is 1/4 year today. It's going so fast!
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Happy 1/4 year birthday Jesse!
I wish Jazz would sleep through the night again. She was so good before but now she'll wake at about 12:30 but I don't get her up then. I go in, put a dummy in her mouth and she usually goes back to sleep for 30mins to an hour or a bit longer if I'm lucky. Then she'll wake up 2-4 hours after a feed.
Last night when she was up at 2am for a feed DH got up as well so he could watch the F1. Jazz then woke at 6am and I'm in the habit of no matter what, I set an alarm for 8am and get up then. When she wakes at 6am she'll finish the feed at about 7ish so I usually stay up, there is no point going back to bed IMO. So I'm up, she's in bed, DH is in bed and that's the way it is.
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Any one else found ticklish spots yet?? Under Jesse's arms & the top inside of his thigh. He cacks himself. Its so funny.
Danni - Jesse has good nights & bad nights. Last night was a bad one.Went down around 8.30. Woke at 1am, 3.30am, 5am, 6.30am, 7.30am. The night before was good though. Went down about 9.pm & only woke at 3am, then 7.30. Almost every nights different. I think last night he had a dirty nappy though. He doesn't usually dirty it through the night, & I use Huggies so I don't have to change him. But obviously last night I should've. Oh well, we r still alive.
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Morning girls,
How are you all? I am pretty good just very tired even though DJ is sleeping well, just so tired..... Last night he went to bed at 7pm at my mums place and then continued to sleep when we got home and thought I will just stay up and see how long he will sleep for and by 11:30 I ended up waking him up for a feed and a change of nappy and then put him back in his cot and he continued to sleep and woke up at 5:45am, so now I wish I just went to sleep early so I don't feel so tired haha So he had a great sleep.
Lisa - that is a tough decision but one that only you can make. I plan to go back to work on 1 September, and also have no choice because we will need the money by then, but hoping to negotiate with my boss so I can return to work part-time (3-4 days per week). I think in today's society you have no choice but to go to work and leave children in childcare because with the increasing interest rates and even the rise in petrol prices, it is hard to manage with one wage. That is my own opinion. For women who can stay at home with bub I think that is fantastic also, I wish I could do that but then again, I do enjoy my job and need my own time to be myself and stimulate the brain. I always knew that I would return to work, at least part-time anyway.
Danni - so is Jazz wanting playtime after a feed early hours of morning??? I have heard of mums talking about this, but apparently it is just a stage they go through. I haven't gone through it with DJ yet and not looking forward to him wanting to play at 3am eeek
Shell xx
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No thankfully! She'll fall asleep on the boob and sometimes just doesn't want the 2nd boob. She does go back to sleep quickly during night feeds. I think thats coz I wont change her until about 6am and I don't take her out of her sleeping bag. I don't think she fully wakes up during the night. From about 6am, when she wakes up she's fully awake (might go back to sleep after feed) but when she's awake then as soon as I walk in her room she'll open her eyes and either smile or laugh!
I'm trying to get her to sleep now but I think she's trying to do a poo
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