Babies Born March 1st - 15th 2008 #4

[india44]

Hmm not sure where that little frowny face came from on my post I didnt put it there

[Sammiejane]

will post properly later, but excited about my new ticker pic

[prama]

sj - thats a really cute pix of mj!!

bron - thanks for letting us know abt day care and they will accomodte routines for a bit. that helps.
poppy's trying to sit up when on our lap but not when on the floor.
he's too busy playing lazy susan

skye- what kind of courses would like to do?

im feeling a bit down, i love poopy so much but i still find im getting so exhausted and run down and some days i wish i had pre-poopy days. i feel so terrible for thinking that. i just wish i had some alone free time without any worry or having to think abt everything.
maybe it's one of episodes.

[india44]

prama I totally understand it can be so very overwhelming and for all intents and purposes you are are a single parent atm and you dont get any you time.I have been this way too with hubbys job and get so exhausted I dont even feel liek I get a break when I am in the shower o abth anymore becasue I can still hear him Maybe when you get home STeve can give you alloted days or time to yourself. Dont feel terrible I think we are all still adjusting to being mums and just as we think we have the hang of it they go and grow up and doing something new and change their routines.And I do think its an episode so to speak that every few weeks you get that overwhelmed feeling about being a mum. Hang in there you are doing an amzing job and you will be home to Steve soon too.
bjrose good for you on the study front its great to do something fo rour mind..anything for your mind even if it doesnt come to anything in the end I think study is a great thing you go girl.

Bron xx

[Sammiejane]

Prama - was there this week too... Like Bron said, its probably an episode.. its hard to explain i feel lonely but often am surrounded by people... broke down to DH Monday and tried to explain it but felt silly doing so. I think the biggest thing is that although i love being around MJ, i really cant rememeber when i last let my hair down and had fun and a good laugh and i think that now that we are all in more of a routine we miss it a bit more.
You must also be missing Steve so much and that will also be making it harder.

You know what i did, i ordered some face products from Strawberry net and they gift wrap for free, so i had them wrapped and put an uplifting message to myself in the card and when it arrived, even though i sent it too myself it did feel a bit better... try and pop out even for an hours a have a facial or something.

I have taken Skyes advice and now shower in the evenings after MJ is in bed - i was always a morning shower girl but now i can relax.

Bron - so glad that the new job has made things a bit easier although the early starts for you all must be hard - you must really be looking forward to the weekend

Cant remember what i said in the past about Jolly Jumpers but i got one today and i am sooooo glad that i did. they have changed the 'saddle' so maybe its not as bad for the hips - as for the falling off - there is no way with the way that this attaches. Anyway MJ squealed and babbles and laughed in it. We put on the wiggles CD (we found DSS old music and toys last weekend) and she bounced around. the only down side was that she spewed a few times (thank god for floor boards )

Oh and our high chair arived today - the people ended up delivering it for me for free as the husband had to do a delivery near us, so that was awesome - it is EXACTLY the same colour wood as our table and chairs and barely looks new - best $40 i have spent in a while

Shell - you must the the skinniest mini in the town with all that walking. Good luck for the weekend - will you be doing it with DJ - he will be learning such good and healthy habits from is Mummy - well done

[shell_120308]

Hey girls,

What a day..... I normally can go shopping in peace with DJ just sleeping in the pram, but not today he has constipation big time!!! I was in Target and he was screaming the store down arghhhh poor bubba. Tried prune juice diluted with cooled boiled water but he screwed his face up and didn't drink any of it. Chemist suggested Brauer's stomach calm which helped a bit, he poo'ed straight away. Still in pain though, will do some more massage on his belly tonight.

re: figure and walking - surprisingly enough I have only lost 4kg and finding the last 5kg the most hardest to lose. My belly is still there, finding every stomach exercise won't trim it down fully unless I do it every single day arghhhh but walking is great when the weather is good. Past few days have been slack, haven't been bothered so just been resting. DJ is good just sleeps in pram the whole time though.

re: portacots - thanks for your advice on the portacots, esp kinderkot, still not sure which one I will get. I think I will head to Babies Galore on the weekend to see if they have them all up so i can see what they look like outside a box.

Prama - don't worry we all feel that way, and after DJ's crying episode at Target today I had that same feeling. I just had these plans of a good shop around Castle Hill and trying things on while he slept, didn't work out that way. So, don't worry it is ok to feel like that I am sure all mums feel like that we all need our own time.

SJ - I got a jolly jumper too today at Target they were on special and couldn't resist. My hubby has it all set up now and ready for use. DJ is sleeping atm so can't wait to try it out I know I have heard it isn't good but he is holding himself pretty upright and we will always be there so he won't be alone.

Bron - wow sitting up already that is great to hear. DJ just falls to the side, trying to get him to sit up more though. He loves to stand though, think he will be like me and walk before he crawls hehheee

Skye - know what you mean about the self settle - it is sooo hard and I need to learn to walk away. might have to do it in stages just for myself not so much DJ haha

I better go Dj just woke up, hope everyone else is well.

Shell xxx

[danniellabella]

Jazz has conjuntivitus. The doctor will be here any minute now.

I was going to stay at work for Friday night drinks until 5:30 but I got a call at 5 when I had just gotten half a glass of wine. Day care called to tell me she had conjunctivitus (which she caught from the centre mind you!) so I had to pick her up. Maybe next week everyone in our house will be healthy and I can stay for drinks.

I'm enjoying my job, the more I actually know what I'm doing, the better coz I hate not having anything to do.

[danniellabella]

I keep meaning to ask: Is anyone else's bub's facinated with people's faces? Jazz will touch my face all the time, especially my mouth when I'm talking. She's really exploring my face so I've started to teach her the names of facial features when she touches my face. Then after I've said "that's mummy's mouth" I'll put her hand on her mouth and say "that's Jazz's mouth" and things like that.

With the noises she makes sometimes it sounds like she's saying words. Sometimes it sounds like she's saying muuuum. I know she isn't yet but it's cute. I feel like she's really developing her social skills so much quicker now since being at daycare. She also seems so much happier coz she's having heaps of interraction with different adults and children. I think I've done the best thing for her by getting her in daycare when I did, it's helping her development so much.

[danniellabella]

Jazz has conjuntivitus. The doctor will be here any minute now.

Grrrr! I'm soooo annoyed! I was told over 40mins ago that the doctor was 4mins away. I just rang again and it appears I was rung by mistake. There is another person with the same last name and that's who the doctor was 4mins away from. I was then advised that he wouldn't be here until sometime after midnight. Told them to forget about it (in an annoyed voice) and that I wanted to go to bed. I would have been in bed an hour ago if I'd known that.
I'll just have to try and get her into a doctor tomorrow afternoon.
Why do they have to be so incompetent!

[india44]

Danni if you ust keep wpiing out jazz's eyes with a light saline solution util you get to the doctor she will be ok. They will prescribe some cloromisetin(sp) and after she has had it for 24 hours she can go back to care and you should only have to treat it a few days. be warned though both sets of your carers maywell require a note form your doctor to say what it is. I would also keep arecord of when she got her first eye infection some babies can get re infected quite oftenas it can stay in the tear ducts. Have you got anybody else who can pick up jazz apart form you and Matt? It alwasy helps i fyou have aback up as sick kids can really eat into your work leave and it can casue hassles. Just think she not only developing her social skills but also her immunity in childcare and they tend to go get most things in the first 12 months or so.

[~clover~]

Hi all.

Prama - Don't worry. I don't think I know or have ever heard of a mother who doesn't wish that for just a few hours they weren't a mum. Just so they can have time off without worrying about the kids. I've had alot! I wouldn't trade my babies for anything in this world, but some days I wish that I could just walk away. Even just for an hour.
I am looking into a social welfare course. I think I'm going to have to do my HSC first though. I didn't finish it at school.

Danni - cooled boiled salty water should be used to clean her eye. Wipe it from the corner out with a cotton ball, then get a new cotton ball each time you wipe. You can break them up so you don't waste them, but the eye can be reinfected if you don't use a clean one each time.
We all had it about 6 months ago. Be really careful with pillows & towels, it is so easy to spread. I think Bri laid on one of our pillows once & I didn't even think twice. The next morning Anth had it & the morning after that I got it.

Shell - Has something changed in DJ's diet? I couldn't change ff brands with Jaz or she'd get constipated. Just going from bfing to ffing did it to her. She was really sensitive. It didn't bother Bri though. I only ever changed them if the one I usually got was sold out. But it might help to know that to avoid it in future.

SJ - The night time shower helps doesn't it. I think I've said before that I couldn't get through every day with out it.


I am so peeved with Anthony! He was sleeping yesterday afternoon when it was time to pick the girls up. So was Jesse, so I woke Anthony up & told him that Jesse was in bed sleeping & I was going to get the girls.
I walked out the door thinking I hope he doesn't fall asleep & not hear Jesse wake up. Anyway, I walked down to the bus stop waited around foe 5 minutes or so, went over to the shop for a loaf of bread. Had a bit of a chat & walked up to get Bri. Back up across the road from home. I went in, talked to the teacher for a bit, went out & got Bri, went & got her things together, walked out then had to go back for her hat. Signed her out & walked out.
By this time I'd probably been gone for half an hour. As we came in I heard Jesse screaming. I raced inside to Anth laying with him.
He'd only just heard him screaming & went & picked him up. He'd gone back to sleep & hadn't heard him.
It took me about 2 hours & 3 bfs to finally settle Jesse down. He could've been crying the whole time I was gone! I can't get over it. I know Anthony feels bad, but thats not good enough. I'll get over it, but I am SO peeved!

[shell_120308]

Skye - that is the thing, no change in formula brand and he has been formula fed now for 1.5 months full time so can't be that.... I did try to give him some rice cereal but he didn't even have any because he didn't like it. He might have taken 1/4 of a teaspoon if anything..... surely that wouldn't be the cause..... or do you think the iron in it may have caused the constipation???

Oh Skye I would have been peeved as well..... seriously men just don't think sometimes..... grrrr

I am having problems with DJ taking not alot of formula..... He will take 100ml (if I am lucky) at each feed and I am still feeding him 6 times in 24 hours..... so some feeds he will only take 60-80ml, is that normal?? he has plenty of wet nappies etc but just wish he would drink more than 100ml so he doesn't need so many feeds.....

Danni - with saying mum - DJ has been doing that for a while now..... I was wondering if it was meant something else, I hope it is mum keheheee

[india44]

SHell Will has 6 feeds of 180 mils in a 24 hours period and he doesnt like the rice cereal either and it did give him a pain the first time I tried.If dj is growing well and weeing enough then h emust be eating enough.I know I Used to worry m ore when he was breast feeding if he had enough.Maybe dj is just a snacker?

[~clover~]

Hey Shell.
I think as long as he's putting on weight & has plenty of wet nappies he's doing good. Jesse's bf & feeds every 2 - 3 hours still. When he does have a bottle he has 180 mls of ff, but I dunno how much bm he's getting.
With farex I've been mixing it with pureed apples & pears for taste. Tonight he had potatoe mashed with cows milk. He really liked it.
I dunno if the farex would've caused the constipation. Maybe?
Oh & yes. Most men don't think, but mine in particular.

[danniellabella]

Prama, how are you feeling at the moment? I was just reading everyone's posts coz I dont' do that nearly enough, I just write what's going on with me and Jazz. (sorry).
I have felt exactly the way you mentioned you're feeling. Sometimes I'll be honest, I kind of feel resentful but I feel terrible for feeling that way because I wanted a baby so much. I'm not feeling like that any more since I went back to work (not saying that's the answer for you, but it was the answer for me). Now I have my time out - sure, it's not "free time" but It's time where I don't have to be someone's mum and I feel much more in control of my feelings and emotions because I have that 8 hours each day.

Matt is getting heaps more confident with Jazz and I can now go out for several hours on my own and I don't get any phone calls from him or anything. It's getting to the point where he'll try basically everything that I'd try until something works to settle her. There was only one time during the night that he couldn't settle her, that was when her cold first took hold and I took her into the bathroom. But he's asking questions about what to do if this happens or that happens and he's actually willing to learn and watch things that I do.

All that is going to come in handy this week coz I think we might have to keep her home from daycare on Monday and maybe Tuesday which means he'll have to look after her for the whole day while I'm at work. He's fully ok with that.

[prama]

hi girls,

thanks so much for your support. I had been feeling pretty down.
Bron - y ou are right, even tho i'm in the shower or trying to have a nap, when I can hear poopy, I dont feel like I'm really having a break.
My mum has been great help, like she gives him the bottle and looks after him whiile i go to the gym , or i can have a quick nap. Even then, I still feel overwhelmed.
I think it didnt help that w poopy beign sick, i was constantly up and didnt have neough sleep.
But i guess it's true, without Steve I feel like something's missing, it's not teh same. Even with all of mum's help, in a way I do feel like a single parent. Steve did say I can have a or two day to rest, or even go way for tge weekend, and he will look after Lakshman, but of cos i wont do that as it's hard work for 1 person. We should go away together. BUt i did tell him, I want a long sleep after the long flight.
Your will is such a smart boy!!!!
Is your hubby enjoying his job, even tho it's hard work? is he happier?

SJ - yes, it has been a while just being able to relax and worry or think abt what bub wants or needs. They are on your mind 24/7, and sometimes it's just needing to let go, i dont know how to do that yet. I did have a big cry too.
How are you feeling? Hope you're better, you're not only mum to MJ but DSS too.

Shell - how long can a bub use a jolly jumper?
4kgs!! that's fantastic!!!! wow. I've only lost 1 kg. That's one of the reasons I was down too. I feel like a fat cow sometimes.
love that pix of DJ!! I remember seeing an illustration of a baby that looked just like him in a children's book ages ago. can t remember what book, but remember the pix. he's so gorgeous. that pix of innocence.

skye - thanks! you made me feel heaps better. Somedays I do want to walk away and jsut be in aquiet corner and be my oldself again.
poor jesse - id be pi$$ed too. Men can just sleep thru. there have been times when poopy's been crying and Steve's been fast asleep.
Skye, good onya for going back to do your HSC and social worker course. I would like to be one, always wanted to, but im stuck in my job for now.

shell i use the formula to calculate the milk quantity as a guide. 150per kg of bub's weight divided by number of feeds. 150 x DJ's weight / 6feeds.
But poopy's has been fussy about his feeds, i have to give him some, and then he'll push it away, i have to wait for 30mins or more to give him summore. with bf and all this, no wonder im so tired.

hehe - Lakshman says Ma when he cries, hehe

danni - thanks so much, it's ok, it's a bit hard to read everyone's post sometimes.
im better now but wasnt earlier. i think going back to work will help me to, i can as you said, have my time. even tho im still working, im in a social circle, with my old friends and it will sort of give me my old life back. of cos id be going mental thinking what Lakshman's doing every single moment.
Iw as actually thinking about that this week. i know i said before i was really looking fwd to going back to work but im enjoyuing spending so much time w him, and i find it hard being away from him. that's tho, is because i miss him and at the same time feeling guilty for being away from him.

I'm really happy to hear that Matt's doing a super job, he's grown heaps more confident w jazz in such a short while. He's done really really well. And it makes things easier for you too.

Everyone's got super cute smily/laughing pictures of their bubs, and all we used to talk aobut were ultrasound pictures!!

oh, i forgot to say,that poopy's developed this habit of screeching from the base of his throat. it's been so at home, but yesterday we were out at tesco's (like big w) and he was doing it while I was pushig his pram and he thought it was really funny. I had to come home and give him atalking to. Im trying to tell him that it's not right. First discipline lesson! Gawd I just hope he doesnt do it on the plane!!!!

[india44]

Where do Look to see dj's new pc?

[Sammiejane]

Prama - MJ squeals and screeches too - asked a freind and she said that it is normal development and that a friend of her had a bubs had a baby that didnt do it - ended up the bubba was delayed in speech... so its all good as much as they choose the worst time to do it!!!