Dear Hannah,
It is horrible to hear of your loss, I hope you are getting by ok. As for the counselling, it won't hurt.... I wish I had of had some after my first loss when it was offerred. I thought there was no way I needed it, that it was for 'crazy' people.
You must remember that you are a mum, you just don't have your baby here anymore. Its up in heaven now with all our angels as well.
I know what you mean about the 'Its for the best' or 'nature is just doing its job' comments. I still get people saying them too me now, even after so many losses. And you do belong here just as much as women who've had multiple miscarriages etc. We're all here to help and listen. I don't believe in keeping these things hush hush. All my friends turn to me first for pregnancy advice.
I have a book (just an blank art book with that I've covered) that I have details of each pregnancy and things I had from the hospital & test results for my angels. I look at it every so often and get a bit teary. I have a seperate one for my 2 year old daughter, with all her birth records etc in it. I get a bit sad leading up to their due dates, one is in about 5 weeks from now. I also talk about them a lot and have a laugh with my husband.
I wish you the best of luck in the future