It is true that once you experience the loss of a child, the innocence of pregnancy is lost. I had complications throughout my entire pregnancy so I never got the "your at 12 weeks" all clear, but I never thought it would end in the loss of my child. It really just isn't discussed or even something that we are educated about, so when it happens you feel like the only person in the world, like your body has failed you and your baby. But you are not the only person sweety. Unfortunately there are many of us, but just talking about it and realising that there are absolute strangers out there just like me who care so much about you, will help you get throught the dark days.

I see from your signature that it was a month yesterday since Cooper became an angel. How did you go hun? I am 12 weeks today and it seems like only a moment ago that the doctor told me he was gone.

I guess we just have to play with the hand that we are dealt but that doesn't change the fact that it is just plain unfair.

We will get through this together. A mother who lost her baby at 40 weeks told me recently this and it is one of those things that I keep remembering

"no matter what anyone tells you about being a new mum, the tiredness, the dirty nappies, the crying, being a mummy to an angel baby is the toughest job in the world and we would never sleep another moment in our lifetime, to have our babies with us"

I know that you would have been and are a wonderful mummy to Cooper. I am sure that my angel baby Harrison and all the other angel babys are looking after him.

:hugs: