Hi Nicki. I just want to give you a big hug...:hugs:
I know there is nothing anyone can say or do that will be particularly comforting at this time. We lost our bub at 12 weeks and it was devastating. My Hubby bought me a necklace while I was in hospital, which reminds me of our precious bub and also of his love for me.
I don't want to sound harsh but don't forget that you aren't the only one grieving. Your hubby will be too, and while it hurts so much more for us I think we can forget how hurt they are too.
Please don't blame yourself. I know it is really hard but one of the things which really helped me was "well at least we didn't have a really sick/ in pain/ damaged little baby, better now than after 9 months." It sounds cruel I know but it did help me.
I hope this has helped.
Blessings to you and your family. Catherine