Hi Lorin and welcome

My little guy has come ahead in leaps and bounds since starting school. He has an integration aide that comes in and helps the teacher, class and him. We were really scared about him being labeled or singled out but the diagnosos and the help is getting has made it all worth it.

I found 4 to be hardest. At kinder my son would hide under tables or bury his head in the couch, especially if the other kids were rowdier than usual. His best days were when there was a nasty flu going through the kinder and half the class was off sick. I know your kinder system is different up there but he had 3 years of kinder (2 of 3yo and 1 or 4yo) and was already 6 when he started school. That last 6 months of kinder he seemed to go through a bit of change and a few of his worst traits seemed to settle a bit. They are still there but we are able to get him to recover from an episode a lot quicker now he is older.

it just feels sometimes like the lights are on and no ones home.
He is taking EVERYTHING in even though it may not seem like it some times. Part of the problem with Aspergers kids is that their brain gets overloaded on things because they can't stop thinking about them. When this happens they find it hard to switch between tasks or even listen to what you are saying. It can take a few days for a reaction to something to happen too so if he has a melt down it may not be the events of that day he is reacting to.