I agree that it would come across to me as an honnor.

we are naming our son after my grandad (dec) and alsthough i would like my brothers name as a middle name (its a long tradition) my DH wants me to use my fathers name as he has also passed away. So both names are after ppl very close to us that are no longer here.

My nan was very touched and moved when we told her. I am still yet to let my fathers parents know.

I would understand how hard this might be for your DH though as im sure he remembers sad times when this has been discussed as he was growing up.

I hope you are both able to come to a decision .