Well I have 2.5 years between Emma & Jack and then a huge gap between Jack & Asha (almost 7 years).

The age gap between Em & Jack is good, although at the moment they are driving me crazy with the fighting!!! Emma was toilet trained by the time Jack was born (night and day) and was such a good helper. She was also able to spend time on her own playing so that I could feed Jack and do washing etc.

The gap between Jack & Asha was circumstance more than choice. There are some really good benifits to having such a huge gap, Em & Jack are independent and able to feed and water themselves so when I was feeding Asha they could look after themselves. They have been fantastic helpers and make great babysitters when I want to have a shower and do other things (few more years and they can baby sit when we go out!!!).

I did find it hard to get used to waking up during the night again and felt like a train wreck for the first few months! It didn't help that I took longer to recover form this c-section than the one with Jack (I was 6 years older). The other thing I worry about now is if we do decide to have another bay how long do I leave it. I did mention to Ryan that I wanted to start TTC again soon but he wasn't so keen on the idea. I think I will work full time next year and perhaps part way through next year we will start TTC so that the baby will be due early 2007 (Asha will turn 3 in June 2007) so the gap will be like that of Em & Jack.

Wow had lots of stuff to type! Good luck in making your decision ... I guess I am going through the same thing.

Cheers