It's the not letting me have my baby back when they're having a hold because they think they can settle the baby better. It's the fear that I won't be able to protect my child because I can't speak up for myself.
Oh I actually had this very very thing happen to me with my MIL, while SIL and my own FWM (futt wit mother) were all visiting at once. DD was due for a feed and MIL just wouldn't give her back. I was getting very distressed for a number of reasons but the refusal to give me back my newborn .... man that took all my strength to not jump off the bed and yank my baby from her.

Fortunately visiting hours were up and she HAD to give her back ...... FWIW this continued to be an issue up until I really grew a set recently and put MIL in her place. She did the whole "I am going to hold my grandchild now" thing trying to take her from me and I just held DD and said "pardon?"

Its hard when you don't want to ruffle feathers, I understand the not wanting to be ruse or offend, but one day hun there will be a limit and your own Mumma bear will raise her head and people will either like it or hate it but Baby is yours not theirs and sometimes Mumma bear just needs to growl to get that point across x x you'll be fine sweets