Maybe I'm weird but I would never expect a hold of a brand new baby and in fact friends with new babies have actually said to me " would you like to hold the new bub" because I havn't asked to hold their new bub. I have visited new bubs in hospital and havn't thought anything of leaving and not having a hold of the new bub. I guess I was not only excited about "seeing" (not holding) the new baby but also seeing the new Mum and supporting and congratulating her. Anyway, that's just me and everyone's different.