Thanks lovely I didn't think of it like that, I should take that time to consider my options. I think people's reactions disappointed me because I was expecting support and when I didn't get it, was kind of taken aback....but I guess that's why I joined BB - so that I can get support and discuss things without being judged.

Maybe being vague would be an idea....perhaps if I am vague enough it will make them realise that they have no business asking in the first place