Unless the person/people in question is offering to be a gestational carrier for your baby they get no say in how it is born. That's up to you, bub and a lesser extent, your healthcare provider.

Im sure you wouldn't dream of telling someone they couldn't birth vaginally, so why should they tell you you can't have a planned c-section?

That said, if you did want another vaginal birth, I am sure there are lots of women on BB who could offer advice and information on helping you confront your fears. Either way, wishing you a wonderful, healing birth experience!
Thanks so much Yeah there are heaps of people on here who have had a traumatic birth and then had a beautiful birth second time around - I take my hat off to them. Might be worth a read of their birth stories for some positive outcomes

Oh totally, I would never ask a Woman how she plans to birth....nor would frown on them for their choice. Any of my friends who have gone into that kind of detail I have always offered support. I even had my DH's step brother's Fiancee who has never had a baby tell me not to have a C-section because I will be a cripple I felt like saying "Oh yeah I was coming up roses with my 40 hour labour and 3c tear last time!

I think listening to your healthcare provider is important - they usually have a reason medically for why things need to happen and at the end of the day, I just want to hold my baby in my arms like every mother