I had an emergency c-sect due to 'fetal distress' - which I don't know if it was true or not b/c dd had apgar scores of 9&9. Anyway, I have no problems having a c-sect, maybe b/c they 'asked' me if I wanted to keep labouring or have the c-sect, and obviously I chose the later? I also agree with aussienic - what is done is done I can't turn that around now. I also don't really understand giving and not giving birth - but from what I have read from your & other posters this is a truly distressing issue. For me, I just shrug it off. I suppose I don't say or think h'ere is my dd who was born c-sect & ff '- probably sounds weird but I only care about my dd being here & being healthy - whatever happened nearly 20 mths ago is out of my control now and for me I see no point in dwelling on it. Plus I want to try for a VBAC next time, so I want my focus to be on that not on the c-sect - IYKWIM?