I guess I had a bit of a different experience to you - I had a c-section for a breech baby, so I had fore-warning and made my peace with it before hand. My experience was definiately made so much more positive by the midwife we had and a theatre nurse. The nurse explained everything that was going on and encouraged me to breathe as though I was in labour when they were lifting DS out. As strange as it sounds, I really believe that it helped me in feeling like I had done something. Not long after I had him, a 'friend' said to me "Aren't you upset that you didn't give birth" and I remember feeling really shocked because I felt like I had - I had the baby and the scar to prove it IYKWIM.

I never really connected with DS as the baby in my belly either - I never saw it from the aspect of having the c-section. I just think that there was "Lester" in my stomach (DH's nickmane, not mine!) and then we had the real thing who had a face and personality, not just there to kick and get hiccups.

I wish I could explain that part a bit better - I tend to ramble . There was an interesting thread a while back about how long it took people to feel a connection towards their child, and lots of girls said they never felt that "instant love" that everyone seems to talk about.