Hi guys. Dh & I are NOT seperating. We were never planning on it. We just thought - or I thought it might help if he wasn't around as much, coz he is doing nothing to help at all.

I am trying to get him to come to the psycologist, but he thinks she just needs more 'disipline'. I don't agree. He thinks coz she's like him to do what his mum did. Flog her. I can't. He has smacked her what I think is too hard in the past & I won't let him do it any more - I didn't like it then either - but he thinks thats what she needs.

He hasn't done it for a while. He is trying really hard there. But his unwillingness to come to the psycologist does get to me.

We are supposed to ignore her & everything she does unless there's a chance someone will get hurt. If there is a chance someone will get hurt, ask her very calmy to stop whatever she's doing. If I have to say it 3 times, then put her in time out. It's hard to do. Really hard, but I am trying. DH can't ignore it. He thinks since she knows its wrong - & she usually does - that she should get in to trouble. Not much help.