Do you judge other peoples parenting?

[myson]

mbear. did you ask for ID? i bet they didnt work for DOCS. lying judgemental cows...

ok. yep im a judgemental cow. i admit it. and i am a perfectionist. which makes my standards unbelievable high, for myself and others. my house is SPOTLESS. (check for updates on that when this bay is mobile )and if you come to visit me and put your keys and bag down in the wrong place it will nag at the back of my mind until you pick them up to leave. its a hard way to live but its me.

but knowing i am a judgemental perfectionist, admitting it, living with it, that is what teaches me to keep my mouth shut! ( i am also afraid of confrontation)

and i have to say JOINING BB. AND READING THE POSTS ON ALL DIFFERENT SUBJECTS FROM SO MANY VARIED PEOPLE, HAS MADE ME A BETTER PERSON.

YES i am still judgemental, but the side of me that stops to look at the other side of the coin has also grown and developed too.

[Glamourcide]

^ I think that's the main thing, at the end of the day. There's a difference between jumping on your high horse and galloping around thinking you're superior to everybody else, and being judgmental of others when making those judgments leads you to either look at your own methods and question them (usually just to make sure you're doing what you think is right), or to at least look at other people and say, 'I might do it differently, but that's okay'.

I too have found this forum has really opened my eyes to some different points of view on certain things, I love having such a huge network of such different, unique women in such different positions and stages of their lives, all with ideas, experiences and advice to share with others.

[loulabelle]

Interesting thread, Have only skimmed over responses.

My answer is yes and no.In cases like you have described and a child is in danger, I do judge.I had a Friend who deliberately got pregnant at 18 to her heroine addicted boyfriend.I wont go into detail but the friends mother works for DOCS and now has permanent custody of the little girl.While I still try and be there for the friend because I know she is a good person underneath, I just cant understand her choices.I wish i didn't judge in these cases because I don't know the whole story and I really suspect mental illness in her case.
Apart from this, when I am talking about general parenting issues, schools, sleeping arrangement,food etc.I don't judge those different for me.Every parent ultimately loves there child and are doing the best thing for them.Just because co-sleeping works for me, I understand it doesn't for others etc.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Just a couple of questions:

Did everyone here seriously research all their parenting choices before they made them? I only researched some things after I started doing it (such as co-sleeping and baby-lead weaning) and I've never read anything on potty training, just going with the flow (so to speak) there. For the most part, I do what comes naturally. I'm fairly sure what I did last night was a no-no (climb into a cotbed and go to sleep, letting DS not have much space in his own bed!) but didn't research it ever.

And I agree that emotional abuse is horrid, but can we do much bar stick up for the child and love the child? I agree, that is the thing to do. But many parents don't realise the mistakes their parents made and just copy. My sister wants to be just like my mum with her potential children (poor things). It's a hard one for me to comment on. Obviously bullying parents should be stopped but many don't realise there's a problem at all. Most bullies don't.

[mbear]

mbear. did you ask for ID? i bet they didnt work for DOCS. lying judgemental cows...

....nope i didnt...i was like a school child being scolded, i jumped into my car and drove off, wanting to die and be buried right there and then.


I loved your post Myson BTW....i agree, i put an awful lot of high expectations on myself, and i expect others to be at that highest point. I know its ridiculous. Sometimes i am my own worst enemy, but i agree with your comment about BB making you a better person. I too have become less judgemental, and kinda figure 'each to their own..'.....