Interesting thread....

I do look and judge, but all my judgment is kept internal (or winged to DH in private), unless I can see real harm to a child.

The only exception I have to this rule, is an agreement I made with my sister when we were both pregnant together. We agreed that if we saw each other doing something that just didn't feel right, or that we wanted to offer advice on, we were able to do so, in a constructive positive way, but we were not allowed to get angry or offended by the comment/suggestion, and similarly, if the comment / suggestion was not taken on board, we were not allowed to harp on about it. And to date, my sis and I and our babies are getting along very well. We have both been able to support and help each other out.