yep, and it doesn't always come from a conscious effort. i think that the majority of the time that we do this is not so much to denegrate or 'tut tut' other parenting, but rather as a way to re-evaluate our own choices. so sometimes i go: 'oh, i would [I]never[I] do that...', then i think 'hmmm actually...' ITMS. of course there are situations where it is a total no go for me, but for the most part i think it is all about learning and taking note and placing ourselves in the others shoes with their kids iykwim.

i hope my garbled post makes some sense! LOL!