I think sometimes when I am judgemental towards other parents it comes from a frustration that sometimes we take the "hard road" with DS in the belief that it is worth it in the end. By that I mean we parent him to sleep instead of leaving him to cry, even though it sometimes takes a really long time. Or persevering with breastfeeding even when it was frustrating. So when I go to mother's group and everyone is going on about how their babies sleep through the night blah blah blah I am sometimes a bit judgemental and think well that is because your baby is traumatised because you left him to cry for 2 hours.

Another example is at Christmas time, we were trying to help DS to sleep, at that time it was a very difficult task as he had reflux and breast refusal issues, I was putting him to sleep in one room and my cousin put her baby to sleep in another room. We heard her little one crying (which woke my DS up again!) and after a while I said to DP do you want to just check cos my cousin might have gone downstairs and can't hear him. DP went out and my cousin was standing outside the door listening to him cry. I felt very frustrated at the time because I was spending hours helping DS to sleep and her baby woke mine up and she was leaving him to cry. It made me feel better to tell myself that we were better for not leaving DS to cry.