Yes, I do judge. I dont' think we can help it really, but what matters is what we do about it once we find ourselves judging people.

For example I tend to be very harsh on people I know. Not just those whose parenting styles are not like mine as I know they may be doing what I consider the "wrong" thing but for the right reasons, ie they love their baby and are trying to do what they think is best for him. No, I tend to be (privately) judgemental of those who do things like let their 9 month old baby eat most of a Pizza Hut pizza on her own , I couldn't believe it when I heard it but they were boasting about it cause they were proud of her "achievement". I certainly had a lot to say about that, to DH only.

On the other hand I try very hard not to judge people I don't know. Like if I see someone in a shopping centre doing something I don't do. Mind you, it's very hard not to judge a woman shouting and swearing at her kids. Also I'm like Myson, I'd never let my child roll around the floor of a shopping centre food court, those places are filthy! But DD did crawl around the floor of the church on Sundays as I knew it was vacuumed and kept reasonably clean.

I also try not to feel judged which I think is something that affects how we judge others. Like my 3.5 month old sleeps 8 hours a night but it didn't occur to me to feel judged by what Mumiloo said as I just assumed she knew that the mothers in her mothers group had actually practiced CC and that's why their babies slept through.

This whole judging thing is a bit of a minefield really. Especially when you feel really strongly about some things, like gentle parenting.