i'm a young mum too (21 this year). i did get some stares at shopping centres as my partner is studying so i go out places just me and dd. but if anyone did get nosy and asked me i would have told them that yeah, i was doing a traineeship but if we didn't want to have kids yet we actually would have prevented it. i'm not stupid. it was sooner than i'd have liked but never did i call her an accident. i mean before the 70s at least, most mums were 25 or younger. its only the rise in career women (and those that just work coz they have to) that have made us look irresponsible. i reckon we're the smarter. we used our youth to have healthy babies, rather than waiting till we can "afford" it and end up using those savings on ivf etc. plus there's heaps of time to work. and to those who think she's an accident i say, well at least i'm young enough to chase after her and she'll be out of home before i'm a pensioner. to us, the young mums, bugger u nosy biddies.