Oh my goodness, the more I read the more complicated I know all of these situations are. I have never had a daughter-in-law before and so it's all new to me. It is harder because they live out of state, so I can't just spend time with her. She has ad a difficult life and overcome many obstacles and is obviously very bright, she is an attorney. Her own mother has a mental illness and as a teenager, DIl had to take over her affairs. So she has had no easy road and no good examples. But I am willing to work hard to have this be good. However, I am NOT willing to be continually abused. So we will see what happens. I would love to be MIL to any of you sweet women. :-)