Possums, another self confessed control freak here! I can recommend talking with a professional. It has made a huge difference to me and DH to find someone we relate to and trust. Good luck with that and glad my perspective may have helped a little.

Jodie , you are carrying too large a load with your own journey to feel guilty comparing your secondary infertility journey to primary infertility. IMO it is just a big a deal and just as difficult, if not sometimes more difficult and a real stress. I am glad you have vented here, if you need the support or advice or whatever, please ask away, no guilt attached, that is what Belly Belly is here for. There are quite a few women with secondary infertility to talk to if you want who know only too well how hard it can be. PM me for details if you want to.

xx