Possums, good on your for actively making some effort to change things.

After my m/c, DH and I were treating ourselves for some holidays, we had an overseas holiday impending in two months time, but went to blue mountain before that just for a relaxed weekend and stayed at Peppers resort so we can enjoy some luxury (the venue wasn't stunning but that is another topic )

We also tried to keep up the exercise/outdoor acitivites, like swimming, tennis, bush walking etc. Now it is summer, Bondi to Bronte walk would be top on my list (we just did that when 'Sculpture by the sea' was on)...

It can also be a simple things at home, a relaxing bath, a gourmet meal with your favourate wine, a piece of beautiful music. DH & I have more quite calm time just sitting at the backyard and appreciate nature and peaceful life we have...sure we are missing a piece in life ATM, but we tried to cherish everyday and live it to a full.

Oh, I planted a rose in meomory of my angel baby and also did a painting to remember the days that he was inside of me and it is hanging in our spare room. I find painting is a good outlet for me to calm myself down and letting things out.

Good luck hun! Look after yourself and it will get easier I can assure you....hugs x