hey luv......i know exactly what you mean.....this woman doesn't attack him not one bit, but always goes after me.....we have decided that if we are going to do anything, we are going to do it legally....we have an appointment with our solicitor who also happens to be a magistrate...he is brilliant and after speaking with him briefly about it on the phone, he also agreed that doing things legally is the way to go and it means more....i had my eldest son home for the weekend and his uninvited friend, my weekend was a shocker to say the least....i cried on and off all weekend, i couldn't wait for them to leave, accept for my son because i wanted to spend more time with him than what i did, but hopefully at xmas when he comes home we can catch up then.....cheers kiya