I totally agree with colleen that it is so hard when they don't take early losses into account, because we as woman know so much about our own bodies, we know when we are carrying a baby on some level and we feel that connection from early on. I too have had several early losses and bascially no investigation. I know how it is when you have friends around you that have the easiest pregnancy journey- I feel like this is the hardest thing DH and I have ever been through. I have a friend who is pregnant and due when the first little soul we lost would be and it is so hard. I have really lost contact a bit with her at the moment, because I know I'm not always strong enough to be around her, it is like salt in what feels like a still fresh wound. It didn't help when I told her about my m/c that she said that it is just my bodies way of telling me that it wasn't right, that it rejected it. She has no idea what it is like to lose a little soul, I can't expect her too. I think that is why this site has been great because people here know what is like. It is interesting that I don't have the same thoughts about pregnant women in the m/c thread as other woman, because I feel like they know just how lucky they are, they bring a sense of hope and you have to be so excited things are working out because they really deserve it. Oops, have to remember I am one of those pregnant women as of Wednesday now we have a heartbeat, 8 weeks and hanging on- I hope we can be the people to attest to the fact that miracles can happen, and I'm sure that can happen for anyone.
Sending lots of cyberhugs, Meg