Hi Dusty

I agree with Flowerchild. From my experience, I think the lack of acknowledgement comes about because of our society's taboo on open displays of grief and the lack of acceptance of death as a normal part of life. As I read somewhere recently, it is more acceptable to sit in a movie theatre surrounded by strangers, watching a movie about people who didn't exist, played by people you will never meet, and cry openly. Yet when it comes to a real life situation this display of grief is frowned upon because it makes other people uncomfortable! So what! You have every right to grieve for your baby. From the moment you knew you were pg, you and DH made 'room' for the baby in your lives. The baby became part of you both and your grieving is reflecting all of your lost hopes and dreams that you had for your little one, all of them never to be experienced things such as first smile, first laugh, first step, first cuddle.... You will always grieve for that lost future and that is perfectly natural. To not grieve would be a cause for major concern about your mental health.

Dearest DW , remember that I am hear to talk to, to meet up and just go shopping, or take a walk, or whatever you need, just call me or sms me. I know I could use a friend who understands me at the moment! And if you think you're not coping on your own, I have the details of counsellor who specialises in pg loss and infertility, and she's very close to your house as well. Just let me know. And I have some pg loss books that might help you as well. They have helped me lots!

Take care hun and go easy on yourself,
love Cherylxx