Oh Nae no-one would judge you hun, your doing an amazing job.
No-one explains how hard it can be, in your head you think it's the most natural thing in the world and it should just happen but it doesn't.

DD was horrible at feeding on BOTH sides, she would fall asleep, grizzle, cry, scream i was at my wits end.

The best thing you can do for yourself and your gorgeous DD is admit that things are not going as best as they can, i definitely agree with ringing the ABA, they are VERY helpful.
We all have doubts after bubs has come along and yes crying is part of their process but the MCHN should have offered more help.

I hope someone has more advice for you, it's all trial and error but your doing a fantastic job so keep it up and i hope she settles for you ASAP and you can get back to enjoying your gorgeous little girl.