Possums, after my first miscarriage in July last year, my FS sent me to see a psychologist and enforced a break. I didn't get back into things October...
It was painful having to take a break, but in hindsight it was desperately needed. I hated my FS at the time, but I did realise that he was doing the right thing by me in doing what he did... Might have been nice if he'd been a bit more gentle about things, though.
It sounds very much like a break to reconnect with yourself and DH would be very much in order - try to embrace it as a period of healing and personal growth rather than seeing it as a delay in IVF treatment.
And you can't compare pain. I'm really sorry that you have to go through this, but don't try to minimise things by saying other people have been through worse or longer. You need to accept your own pain, and if you try to push it aside, it will come back to bite you later.
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Sorry been MIA been abit busy.
Possums: Everything you are feeling and going through is perfectly normal. Yes men deal so differently, i went through this with DH when i had the ectopic and it wasnt till weeks later and i was upset and hed had a few drinks that he shared his true feelings with me he talked of plans for weddings and the future, things i hadnt even gone into. They just want you and everything to be OK and its not.
As for the inforced break it was this time last year after the ectopic they wouldnt let me go again till after the new year, i was so bitter and resentful, i just wanted to jump back in and it felt like the clinic who had backed me all the way had deserted me when i needed them the most. In hindsight (oh isnt it a wonderful thing) it was the best thing, i needed to clear my head, clear my body of all the drugs and pregnancy hormones and re connect and realise that there is more to life than TTC, i relaxed over chiristmas, had a few drinks and oysters and was raring to go in the new year. Im not saying its easy now because it really is so hard ! Possums this probably is just the right thread for you we know exactly how you are feeling and truly sending you a heartfelt hugs and thoughts! Take care.
Yup, speaking from sad experience there.
that he shared his true feelings with me he talked of plans for weddings and the future, things i hadnt even gone into. They just want you and everything to be OK and its not. 
and was raring to go in the new year. Im not saying its easy now because it really is so hard ! Possums this probably is just the right thread for you we know exactly how you are feeling and truly sending you a heartfelt hugs and thoughts! Take care.
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