Possums - i have had to have long delays in treatment because of clinic timing (being regional) - and as hard as it was at the time, to be honest, NOT focussing on TTC for a while is actually really good for your head space long term. i've found that the first couple of weeks are just painful - you're grieving, and wanting to move forward. then you realise that you're doing ok, you're dealing with the pain, and you're enjoying life a little more each day. over Christmas, you can relax. you can focus on being with DH, your extended family (if that is what you want) and just being YOU - not the you that is TTC, the YOU that you were before you started all of this. right now, it's not what you want - nothing about this is what you want. but giving yourself time to emotionally heal is well worth the time. allow you and DH to BE you and DH - not just two people going through IVF
FWIW - i got AF after stim cycle 10 days before Christmas last year, and couldnt go through FET until the very end of Feb so i had to deal with the pain over Christmas. it was still raw, we were approaching and EDD, and it hurt like hell for a while - but when it came to me starting the next cycle in Feb, i was in a much better head space - i'd been able to deal with all the crap i was carrying, and went into the next cycle with a positive outlook about what would be. i went into the next cycle refreshed and ready to embrace the embies we put back as new life, not replacements for our lost angels. as you know, we didn't have sticky success until very recently, but being forced to wait at least four weeks between every cycle was a positive thing for me to heal emotionally. i guess not carrying "fresh" grief into each cycle helped me to be a more positive person. coming off two early miscarriages going into the last cycle, i NEEDED that time to heal - and now i'm glad i was able to deal with that pain first....
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