Possums, after my first miscarriage in July last year, my FS sent me to see a psychologist and enforced a break. I didn't get back into things October...

It was painful having to take a break, but in hindsight it was desperately needed. I hated my FS at the time, but I did realise that he was doing the right thing by me in doing what he did... Might have been nice if he'd been a bit more gentle about things, though.

It sounds very much like a break to reconnect with yourself and DH would be very much in order - try to embrace it as a period of healing and personal growth rather than seeing it as a delay in IVF treatment.

And you can't compare pain. I'm really sorry that you have to go through this, but don't try to minimise things by saying other people have been through worse or longer. You need to accept your own pain, and if you try to push it aside, it will come back to bite you later.

Yup, speaking from sad experience there.

BW